What do YOU need to feel loved?

[storyofmylife]

Just the knowing that I am.......
even if we are miles apart

[musicman]

To have faith in my abilities

To believe in who I am

To Trust me

[MsTinkerbelly]

THAT look...the one that says no matter what, no matter who, she thinks I hung the moon.

[violaine]

consistency

[BullRider_Dillon]

Fidelity! Really,how hard is it???

[Quintease]

Originally Posted by violaine

consistency

That along with 'normality'.

[amnesia.bfp]

I don't remember.

Who am I?

[gotoseagrl]

... peace.

[Gráinne]

High love for myself-without that, no one else is getting through my walls.

Acceptance for all I am, faults and all, BUT also someone who will push me in the ample behind when I make up my mind to better myself. Challenge me, dare me.

I don't need gifts, but if you want to give me one, make it something personal-like you know who I am. The best are made, or planned. Something simple like my favorite dinner on the "good" dishes, followed by slow dancing in the living room...etc.

For example, it would rock my world if she would massage me; better still if she snuck out and took massage classes just to learn how to pleasure me . I was married to a man who gave me a gift certificate for the cheapest massage at a spa, and I had to drive myself there and back. No more.

I must have laughter, enough to make my sides hurt and so I can't breathe, tears rolling down my face. I won't ever be with someone who can't make me laugh. I hope I make my future girlfriend laugh the same way.

I must have someone who listens to me and who doesn't talk to me while walking out of the room.

Be reliable and authentic.

Tolerate me when I'm a big kid and love cool things, whether you think they are or not; better yet, sometimes be a big kid yourself. This does not mean being childish or un-adult when seriousness is needed.

I like the physical part of a relationship often. Very often. This is my primary "love language", from that book. It does not always mean sex; I love contact, period. Don't expect me to warm all over you in bed if you've not touched me at all during the rest of the day.

That's a long list, all to say I can't define it but I know when I feel it

[bigbutchmistie]

Accept me for who I am and dont try and change me.

Being affectionate

Being intimate without being sexual

Dependable in every situation.

Being able to be silly and laugh

Trusting without reservation

Pouring out my hopes dreams and goals. The most intimate parts of my soul. And know Im being supported.

Little things like massaging my back, or leaving notes in my lunch. So many things. Doesnt have to be grand gestures. Its the little things that mean the most to me.

[JAGG]

I always feel loved. I need nothing to have that feeling. Others can add to it but no one, and nothing can take away from it.

[girl_dee]

I agree Jagg, no tasks need be done to feel it.

[justkim]

It just is... a feeling...

[The cute widdle wesbian]

I believe in the 5 love languages for basically what everyone does to express love, and basically how they feel most loved. There's a lot of other stuff mixed in, we can never make it easy lol, but the 5 love languages are: Words of affirmation, acts of service, giving/recieving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. I'm definitely physical touch and my wife is words of affirmation, which simply means that she sometimes has to bat me off her with a stick when I'm feeling too sentimental and I have to shut her up when she's that way. lol, but we balance each other out. She loves my touchy feely ways, how I constantly need hugging and kissing and rubbing and holding and lots of cuddling, if she didn't like that then it would be a disaster for both of us lol, and I like hearing her mooshy wooshy lovy dovy 5-minute long explanations and 3-page letters of her love for me, if I didn't I'd me much too easily annoyed with her. It's the click that we have with each other, even though sometimes she thinks I'm hanging off her too much and I think she talks too much. :P

So that's what makes me feel loved, lots of touching. I'm horrible at expressing my deep feelings through words, I'm the clumsiest person there is with words, but I'm great with touch. So that's how I feel the love, but I also love hearing the words, which I guess would be my second love language in a sense. Just don't expect me to make a speech of love, I feel like a rambling fool when I get started.

[Mister Bent]

[gotoseagrl]

~ Super strong communication - we never have to wait for a response from one another, no matter what is going on, via text, phone, email, verbal or anything. This is a need we both have. We are also constantly talking and/or writing to each other about our feelings, thoughts & more, especially since living together.

~ Honesty - We tell each other everything.

~ Fearlessness - I never feel afraid of anything when we are together, and that says a lot because I tend to be anxious with most people. I am so incredibly relaxed when we are together that I find myself starting to nod off sometimes, which is unusual for me. And I am never afraid to talk about or bring something up with her cause I Just always know it will be ok.

~ Stability - by nature, my Partner is the Dominant one in our relationship & maintains steady routines and daily structure that never change, and I quickly learned I needed that as soon as we started dating. I couldn't do without them now.

~ Protection - my Partner is the one person I feel 100% safe with, always, and it has been that way since the first day we met. She is always looking after me and I am so grateful for that. Also, neither of us could bear to see the other hurt, and we have never hurt each other, not even once, since we've been together. We also never argue or fight.

~ Support - We are each other's #1 fan, and we admire and encourage each other all the time. She is so incredibly supportive of my creative outlets and any interests I want to pursue, and she is amazing with knowing where my strengths and limitations are and knowing which way we need to be headed for both our personal & relationship growth, which is more than I could have ever asked for.

~ Passion - I'm a very passionate person, and in our relationship, this is something that comes effortlessly and intensely. And boy did I meet my match. There is a wild flame that we know will never die.

~ Sense of humor - We are always laughing with and at each other, out of love. Sometimes we can't even stop!

[femmeandstrong]

Just exactly what I am experiencing now.
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