What influences the order of names in a couple?

[Daywalker]

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

Well I am a firm believer we are more of a Femme led community.

As for the outside world outside of here, I think we are and should be a matriarch run world.

That's just my wee opinion.

It's kinda funny, it just occurred to me that when
referencing you two I say "Snowy n Grant..."

Yet, in mah phone U are programmed in as Grant n Snowy.


It was cuz when U dropped yer other number n the new one
was the Florida...I figured U were using Grants phone.

[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by Daywalker

It's kinda funny, it just occurred to me that when
referencing you two I say "Snowy n Grant..."

Yet, in mah phone U are programmed in as Grant n Snowy.


It was cuz when U dropped yer other number n the new one
was the Florida...I figured U were using Grants phone.

Isn't that a bit of a sexist assumption? It's my phone, the other is a work phone, and the other our house phone.

hmmm..

[Daywalker]

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

Isn't that a bit of a sexist assumption? It's my phone, the other is a work phone, and the other our house phone.

hmmm..

Sssseeeeeeeeeeeeeee!


Wait.


I don't have yer house number.


Is this a trick thread?

[Julie]

GOD.. I don't know why, but a poster really got my girlie (at times submissive) panties in a bunch.
(serious)

It will always be Julie and Dreamer (just is).
Has nothing to do with dominance, submission --
I don't think this is the case at all.

Now I am annoyed and not really sure why - but it's almost obscene.
Who runs the fuck, is who's name takes headline?

[The_Lady_Snow]

See your phone us sexist too!!!

Way to be an ally mother fucker!!!

Originally Posted by Daywalker

Sssseeeeeeeeeeeeeee!


Wait.


I don't have yer house number.


Is this a trick thread?

[jac]

I have thought about this very thing before but for me, as with others, it's sometimes just what has been said by other people or that it just flows smoothly. I also agree with the idea that when speaking of family or a familiar name, a lot of times it's because the familiar name gets precedence. For instance with my three children, in referring to their relationships whether son or daughter, their name is first over their partner.

Another thing is order of authority, so to speak. In martial arts, the higher rank is mentioned first, or at least where I trained it was. I was taught in English class back in school that there are certain orders of introduction and so perhaps I kind of follow suit with this idea as well.

On a more personal level and thinking back on different relationships with other women... I always placed the other person first. Again, maybe it's that English class lesson "You and I" kind of thing... *shrugs*

[LaneyDoll]

I was running through a list of names in my head as I was reading this thread.

Most of my friends are D/s and the dominant's name always popped up first for me-regardless of gender, who I had known longer, etc. My lesbian (general term) friends are D/s so they fell into that group.

But, for my non D/s friends, it was the woman's name. Most of them are people I've known for ages. Incidentally, they are hetero.

Family is hard. But it seems to be the blood relative who I listed first-despite who I like better For example, Judy & Bobby (aunt & uncle). Judy is blood but Bobby (RIP) was my all time fave.

However, for my grandparents, I tended to list my grandfather first-but they were called by different "names" whereas my grandmothers were each called "Granny."

Now, for Hollywood couples, I believe that we list them as we are told to. We refer to them as "Fred & Wilma" because that is how the show did. "Lucy & Ricky" because that is how the show did (and she was the star).

This thread is extremely interesting; thanks for posting it!

[JAGG]

I think it depends on who you are talking to. I know my friends and family will say my name first. I tend to do the same with them.I think that is pretty much the case on both sides. You tend to say the name of the one you are familar with first, that has been my experience. But when I am talking about us, I always put her name first .

[thedivahrrrself]

Typically with couples, as Laney said above, I go with the one I've known longer first. With those who I met together, I tend to go with the stronger personality, regardless of gender.

Of course, in any couple I am a part of, my name goes first in my head. Maybe because I've known me longer

[starryeyes]

My partner and I have the same name so we don't have this problem haha! We just call each other Lisa² so we both get introduced equally. Lol.

Smiles!

[always2late]

Very interesting thread...and something I never really thought about until now. And, having given it some thought...I realized that the order of names is something of an anomaly in my family. I am of Italian heritage and, in my case, my upbringing was, I suppose, very "traditional" in regards to masculine and feminine roles. The males of my family were the undisputed "heads of the household", etc.. However, when we addressed my relatives, whether in written or verbal form, the female member of the couple was addressed first, for example, a Christmas card would be addressed to Aunt **** and Uncle ****. And now I am curious as to why this habit, for lack of a better word, came to be within my family. I'll have to ask some family members and see if they have an answer, or the curiosity will drive me out of my tree. LOL