How to tell if she's into you...

flower77 · 08-13-2011, 04:50 AM

After everything I said I've realised that I am rubbish the other way round - meaning - at knowing if someone likes me!

I think I am a bit autistic in the world of dating!

I tend to rely on hearing the words.. literally.. but then I have been messed around and lied to so much (as everyone experiences thoughout life) that I tend to leave it all up to them now, and am sceptical.

So although I tend to attract shy girls too, things don't really get off the ground!!!

Have to work on this!

Any tips???
Fx

proximitywithoutintimacy · 10-19-2011, 02:58 AM

Eight months later - I pursued someone else, fell in love, broken up.... and now, the girl that started it all is back in my life.

Only, now she has a girlfriend.

But she's a classy broad and I have morals, so nothing's going to happen between us.

But, at least I have validation from unbiased bystanders, that she's still into me O.o

ScandalAndy · 10-19-2011, 08:08 AM

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Originally Posted by proximitywithoutintimacy

Eight months later - I pursued someone else, fell in love, broken up.... and now, the girl that started it all is back in my life.

Only, now she has a girlfriend.

But she's a classy broad and I have morals, so nothing's going to happen between us.

But, at least I have validation from unbiased bystanders, that she's still into me O.o

I just read the entirety of this thread, and love you to death for posting it!!!

I had what may have been a successful date just before I left for a week long trip, and now I have no idea whether this chick is into me or not. Yikes!

I feel better knowing I'm not alone in this regard!

luv2luvgirls · 10-31-2011, 04:41 AM

She buys your Axe bodywash... just to smell "you" all day

ScandalAndy · 10-31-2011, 08:30 AM

So, I had a casual dinner with ambulance girl on the 12th. I was out of town from the 13th through the 17th. When I got back I asked if she wanted to hang out, she said it was her birthday that week so she was booked, but we would definitely get together the following week. She started a second job and plans never materialized. I asked her this past Thursday if she wanted to see a movie with me, she agreed to Wednesday. I did all the research for theaters and show times. She responds to texts for a couple minutes, then just disappears.

I think this girl is awesome, but lately I'm starting to get the feeling that if she was into me, she would make time to hang out with me or answer my texts. Am I barking up the wrong tree, here?

Rockinonahigh · 10-31-2011, 03:28 PM

I think ageism has hit the rockin house hold,or I dont have enough $$ or my disablity gets in the way or the only place to maybe meet someone is in gay bars that I dont hardly see anyone over 30.I gess the dateable women have either found someone or gone to high ground.I sometimes wonder if I just missed the boat somehow..BUT if some one was to become intresd in me dont stop trying to get thrue to my thick head cause over the years its gotten sorta dense.

*Anya* · 10-31-2011, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh

I think ageism has hit the rockin house hold,or I dont have enough $$ or my disablity gets in the way or the only place to maybe meet someone is in gay bars that I dont hardly see anyone over 30.I gess the dateable women have either found someone or gone to high ground.I sometimes wonder if I just missed the boat somehow..BUT if some one was to become intresd in me dont stop trying to get thrue to my thick head cause over the years its gotten sorta dense.

Why don't you try one of the lesbian dating sites? It is surprising how many women use them now and there are all different age categories.

As we age, we do not just run into them at nightclubs or the grocery store any more, we have to put ourselves out there.

I had a date with an ex-nun this past Saturday and another date with someone else this coming weekend (not an ex-nun this time).

I even heard from a woman that got out of federal prison-yeah me!! (No, no date there for me).

I figure I have nothing to lose and may meet "the one" one of these dates!

Gráinne · 10-31-2011, 03:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ScandalAndy

So, I had a casual dinner with ambulance girl on the 12th. I was out of town from the 13th through the 17th. When I got back I asked if she wanted to hang out, she said it was her birthday that week so she was booked, but we would definitely get together the following week. She started a second job and plans never materialized. I asked her this past Thursday if she wanted to see a movie with me, she agreed to Wednesday. I did all the research for theaters and show times. She responds to texts for a couple minutes, then just disappears.

I think this girl is awesome, but lately I'm starting to get the feeling that if she was into me, she would make time to hang out with me or answer my texts. Am I barking up the wrong tree, here?

Yes, unfortunately. Whatever the reason, she just doesn't sound that into you or she would be falling all over herself to squeak out five minutes here and there.

gaea · 10-31-2011, 04:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ScandalAndy

So, I had a casual dinner with ambulance girl on the 12th. I was out of town from the 13th through the 17th. When I got back I asked if she wanted to hang out, she said it was her birthday that week so she was booked, but we would definitely get together the following week. She started a second job and plans never materialized. I asked her this past Thursday if she wanted to see a movie with me, she agreed to Wednesday. I did all the research for theaters and show times. She responds to texts for a couple minutes, then just disappears.

I think this girl is awesome, but lately I'm starting to get the feeling that if she was into me, she would make time to hang out with me or answer my texts. Am I barking up the wrong tree, here?

yes sweetie you are...
don't hang around too long with this..
Move forward...

Kelt · 10-31-2011, 04:58 PM

It usually involves something upside the back of my head.

ruffryder · 10-31-2011, 05:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ScandalAndy

So, I had a casual dinner with ambulance girl on the 12th. I was out of town from the 13th through the 17th. When I got back I asked if she wanted to hang out, she said it was her birthday that week so she was booked, but we would definitely get together the following week. She started a second job and plans never materialized. I asked her this past Thursday if she wanted to see a movie with me, she agreed to Wednesday. I did all the research for theaters and show times. She responds to texts for a couple minutes, then just disappears.

I think this girl is awesome, but lately I'm starting to get the feeling that if she was into me, she would make time to hang out with me or answer my texts. Am I barking up the wrong tree, here?

Sorry it's not working out the way you would like it to. I think you are right that she should be showing more interest. Have you tried to call her? Sometimes, life takes over. Try a call or another text. Express your interest of spending time with her and that you would like to again when she can and you look forward to hearing from her so you can make plans. Leave it like that with the ball in her court. You will know soon enough. I wouldn't keep texting however. That can lead to disappointment and frustration if no one is answering. Good luck!

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08-13-2011, 04:50 AM	#1
flower77 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Ms Relationship Status: Single pringle Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: UK (South) Posts: 11 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17 Thanked 27 Times in 9 Posts Rep Power: 238401	After everything I said I've realised that I am rubbish the other way round - meaning - at knowing if someone likes me! I think I am a bit autistic in the world of dating! I tend to rely on hearing the words.. literally.. but then I have been messed around and lied to so much (as everyone experiences thoughout life) that I tend to leave it all up to them now, and am sceptical. So although I tend to attract shy girls too, things don't really get off the ground!!! Have to work on this! Any tips??? Fx

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