Reclaiming Lesbian Pride

[Kobi]

Originally Posted by June

This is complete bullshit. You came at me insinuating I wasn't a good Lesbian and I wasn't participating with a good heart and managed to make several snarky, nasty digs at me and my character, and then I take the time to respond to you and you condescendingly dismiss me because I'm not worth your time?

You might as well have patted me on the head and told me not to be so hysterical.

Kobi -- You clearly have no problem dishing it out, but when a woman, in this case, a Femme (and yes, I think that's relative) gives it back to you, all of a sudden she loses all value. This type of behavior is evocative of what I was referring to back in my corporate days.

June,

With all due respect, to me, your response is bullshit.

I didnt come at you. You wrote something I found offensive and I told you how it made me feel, what it represented to me, and why I felt that way. That is being honest, above board, and straightforward. And, it was done, I think, without taking personal pot shots at you, June, the person.

And, now you apparently have the need to add a bunch of value judgements and assumptions to it in a pretty personally insulting way as to what I said or meant. That is your right to do so. But, lets not confuse what I said and how I said it with your current level of defensiveness because you didnt care for what I said or how what you did made me feel.

If you want to understand what people here have been trying to discuss and why, it requires listening. If you want to genuinely understand, I am happy to answer your questions.

I will not, however, be drawn into an unhealthy and counterproductive interaction with you. That is not communicating or having a dialogue. That is a sparring match.

You seem to think you have a great deal of "insight" into other people's behavior. Maybe you do, maybe you dont. But, to me, it would be helpful to perhaps putting a little more energy into looking at your own behavior.

If I was rude and disrespectful to you, your response would be understandable. I was neither.