PTSD and Trauma recovery

Gemme · 02-04-2010, 08:33 PM

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Originally Posted by DELSDAUGHTER

do you find as a person that has lived thru such abuse and trauma that you tend to be a rescuer in a relationship?

In the past, yes, I have been. That's no longer a role I'm interested in playing with adults. I still haven't gotten kids out of my system and honestly probably ever won't. I would move Heaven and earth to keep a kid from being abused or hurt.

Andrew, Jr. · 02-04-2010, 10:28 PM

I too would move heaven and earth to help a child. Anything for a child. The same for an animal, the elderly, the disabled.

But I am not a rescuer. Not by a long shot. I can barely take care of myself.

DELSDAUGHTER · 02-05-2010, 05:11 AM

i have found that the people i have dated that were in abusive homes when they were growing up.....tend to be just that "rescuers" And have always ended the relationship with me either because
A) i didn't need rescuing.(always been very self sufficient)
B) the relationship was too good, calm, lack of drama
C) have left the relationship for someone that was definitely in more need of rescuing then me...but oddly enough these women were always str8 and always had kids. And a common factor was they were really crappy parents...so i am not sure whether they were rescuing the mothers or the kids.
D) have said they didn't think they were good enough for me or couldn't live up to what i deserved.

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02-04-2010, 10:28 PM	#2
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	I too would move heaven and earth to help a child. Anything for a child. The same for an animal, the elderly, the disabled. But I am not a rescuer. Not by a long shot. I can barely take care of myself.

02-05-2010, 05:11 AM	#3
DELSDAUGHTER Member How Do You Identify?: femme , with occasional tomboy tendencies Relationship Status: single,just me and the pup... Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: sittin on the Mason-Dixon Posts: 239 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29 Thanked 83 Times in 51 Posts Rep Power: 429668	i have found that the people i have dated that were in abusive homes when they were growing up.....tend to be just that "rescuers" And have always ended the relationship with me either because A) i didn't need rescuing.(always been very self sufficient) B) the relationship was too good, calm, lack of drama C) have left the relationship for someone that was definitely in more need of rescuing then me...but oddly enough these women were always str8 and always had kids. And a common factor was they were really crappy parents...so i am not sure whether they were rescuing the mothers or the kids. D) have said they didn't think they were good enough for me or couldn't live up to what i deserved.