Single FTM's & Femme's

[kannon]

Originally Posted by Jarrek

Hello all you singles! I hardly ever post in threads, however, I saw this one and

felt "at home". Dating is much more challenging, in my experience, as a

transman, so I was wondering if I could have other people's input if they felt

comfortable sharing? Can other guys relate to this?

A question for those who admire us: What types of characteristics in an FTM/Transman attracts you to us? Turns you off?

*I appreciate and respect the honesty and incite anyone would like to share!

I've been thinking about this since you posted this question. I'm at a really weird transitional stage. Some days I pass completely and some days I don't. About a month ago, I had a car accident and every person at the scene addressed me as sir or bud except for the officer who saw my drivers license. However, he didn't front me out. Anyway, a woman stopped to offer assistance and seemed to be interested. Later, I realized that she was. She stayed with me throughout the ordeal and gave me a ride home. Later she comes to my house to "check on me." We exchanged numbers. I didn't feel obligated to explain my situation at that time. I wanted to wait until she got to know me a little better. Anyway, she goes to my work and asked my co-workers about me. I've only told a couple of people that I'm transgendered. I live in the bible belt. I'm waiting until I graduate from grad school and move to more liberal area before I come out completely. So, a co-worker corrects her when she addresses me as he or him. After that, she completely cuts off all communication with me. So, I just left her alone and respected her wishes. I didn't try to explain myself or justify my actions. I just left it alone. Throughout the whole ordeal I struggled with it. The whole situation made me feel uncomfortable. I'm sure it really embarrassed her. It was very awkward. I hope this will be easier to deal with after I move. I really don't want people to know until I choose to tell them. I'm not planning on dating straight woman without telling them. But, I would like to get to know someone before I reveal something so personal to me. So, dating has been more difficult for me.

[sarahwho]

Originally Posted by kannon

I've been thinking about this since you posted this question. I'm at a really weird transitional stage. Some days I pass completely and some days I don't. About a month ago, I had a car accident and every person at the scene addressed me as sir or bud except for the officer who saw my drivers license. However, he didn't front me out. Anyway, a woman stopped to offer assistance and seemed to be interested. Later, I realized that she was. She stayed with me throughout the ordeal and gave me a ride home. Later she comes to my house to "check on me." We exchanged numbers. I didn't feel obligated to explain my situation at that time. I wanted to wait until she got to know me a little better. Anyway, she goes to my work and asked my co-workers about me. I've only told a couple of people that I'm transgendered. I live in the bible belt. I'm waiting until I graduate from grad school and move to more liberal area before I come out completely. So, a co-worker corrects her when she addresses me as he or him. After that, she completely cuts off all communication with me. So, I just left her alone and respected her wishes. I didn't try to explain myself or justify my actions. I just left it alone. Throughout the whole ordeal I struggled with it. The whole situation made me feel uncomfortable. I'm sure it really embarrassed her. It was very awkward. I hope this will be easier to deal with after I move. I really don't want people to know until I choose to tell them. I'm not planning on dating straight woman without telling them. But, I would like to get to know someone before I reveal something so personal to me. So, dating has been more difficult for me.

I do not understand why people are so closed minded and so prejudiced! Maybe I am an or something! I just don't get it! Maybe people should follow some of them around for awhile and see what makes them so "lily white"! UGH!

[CockyDude]

Hey all. Would love to see this thread get more involved.

[Leigh]

Just came in to say hello