Stone Butches

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

Good point. I am glad you asked because it gives me the opportunity to clarify. I think that if someone feels completely satisfied with either a stone or non-stone partner, than acceptance would be a better word.

For me, in thinking about it, if I was with someone who could go either way, I think there would be a part of me that would always wonder if they were getting their needs met...or if they could get their needs met long term.

Granted, I am a "no touch", stone butch. Maybe if I were a "no penetration, but everything else is fine", stone butch, or a "don't touch me up top, but touch me everywhere else", stone butch, I would struggle less with understanding how one could go either way. Get what I am saying? If one enjoys touching/licking/sucking female genitals/breasts, then how could they possibly be able to get all of their sexual needs met without being able to have at least some contact with their partner's breasts/genitals? Is it analogous to the bisexual person who can be satisfied with only dating one sex (rather than the bisexual person who needs to have both sexes in order to be satisfied)?

Interesting subject, thanks for raising it.

I kind of have to agree with Dapper on this... I would also wonder if her needs were actually being met, because what I'm getting from this is that, if you can go either way then somewhere inside you wants to touch, etc. I cannot provide that for the other person so I would have a sense of guilt because deep I would think that I am not fulfilling their needs fully.. which for me.. being the extreme stone giver, is what gets my needs met.

I guess if you have someone who is okay with a partner willing and accepting of going either way then that is a good fit... it's just not a good for me.

Thanks for asking...