Ireparably Broken?

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by ButchEire

I'm not sure if the book is suggesting that someone who has an insecure attachment style should seek out someone with a secure one, but this simply won't happen. A person who exemplifies genuine secure attachment won't engage in a relationship with someone who isn't. It's counterproductive and counterintuitive to the nature of secure attachment.

Hi, ButchEire. I hear what you are saying here if you look at it from strict Attachment Theory (Bowlby, Ainsworth, whoever it was that defined adult romantic attachment styles in the 1980's), standpoint, but my guess is that this book is a water downed version that is useful for laymen in their relationships. I would suggest this book has merit for that purpose.

<--- secure attachment style, who may distance a bit when dating a secure/anxious attachment style, who is hys most common choice of partner.