What are your three non-negotiables (in a relationship)?

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by 1QuirkyKiwi

Alone time doesn't mean I don't love my partner or want to be with them....it means I need time to process my own thoughts and feelings and do my own things. Sadly, that is not always understood and I hate feeling as if I'm being suffocated by my partner.

We each had lives before we met and we should be able to blend both our lives as seperate people and a couple together....easier said than done, though!

I'm the same way. I need my personal time and my personal space.

The more they are gone, the better I like them when they come back.

[Random]

Originally Posted by Gemme

I'm the same way. I need my personal time and my personal space.

The more they are gone, the better I like them when they come back.

I have a sticker on my old lap top... A lil goth angle girl who is saying... *How can I miss you, if you don't go away*

I like missing people...

[ruffryder]

Hygiene for one. Yeah the girl has to Smell good, everywhere.
Respect for self and others.
Non drama.
Not always drunk. Occasional social drinker is ok.
Have a personality to match the beauty.
I got your back so I expect the same.
I better be the #1 guy in your life besides our children.

[Ciaran]

Three of my non-negotiables:

• Respect for my private space and alone time. Even if I'm madly in love with you, I often need downtime alone. This includes a recognition and desire that we should not do everything together in our spare time i.e. having some separate interests and separate friends should be encouraged.

• Awareness that my politics are likely to be very different from yours. I don't ask you to like or agree with my politics but I ask that you tolerate my views and, assuming we do disagree politically, keep political conversations to a minimum.

• Please don't get jealous of my love of Kermit but there needs to be room for three in our relationship. Be comforted that my love for Kermit is platonic and non-threatening to our relationship (for the time being at least).

[1QuirkyKiwi]

Originally Posted by Ciaran

• Please don't get jealous of my love of Kermit but there needs to be room for three in our relationship. Be comforted that my love for Kermit is platonic and non-threatening to our relationship (for the time being at least).

Hands off he's mine.... I'm older than you and saw him first! LOL!

I had a large Kermit that sat on my bed with his legs dangling over the side.

[Ciaran]

Originally Posted by 1QuirkyKiwi

Hands off he's mine.... I'm older than you and saw him first! LOL!

I had a large Kermit that sat on my bed with his legs dangling over the side.

I'm not possessive - we can share him

[1QuirkyKiwi]

Originally Posted by Ciaran

I'm not possessive - we can share him

It's a deal! Which half do you want?

[bcelly1894]

I consider myself a strong woman but I cant handle some things.
So, Not One Word of What My Choices Listed Below, Is meant to attack, offend or judge anyone.

I will break up with a woman in a heartbeat, If she has lied to me about any of my dealbreakers. No matter how much I have fallen in love with her, Because clearly I had fallen in love with just the character that she was portraying, And not her true real self.
(by the way where is the funny icon of the butch kicking the femme out the door, lol).

The Femme Has to be Born Female, Be 100% Lesbian, Not BiSexual or Curious. Be Open And Out to most even Her own Family. Without A lot of Unhealthy family issues or Mommy-Daddy Issues.


The Femme that Im with has to be Completely Single. Be Legally Divorced If ever married. Not just Separated.
I would love to be with a Femme who has a Humanitarian Type Heart. Who wont mind helping those in need, like donating toys to kids who dont have them.

I would love to be with a Femme Who Has A Faith Based Belief System.

I would love to be with a Femme that is Accepting of A Pet-Free Relationship and Home life with me. I have many Pet Allergies.
I would love to be with a Femme who is Family Oriented, Wanting to get married, Having kids or more kids. Who loves monogamy.
I would love to be with a Femme Who has Mental Stability and/or Good Sexual and Physical Health.
-Its fine with me if she has to take medications or goes to a mental health therapist. What Im talking about is having a History (past or present) of the following:
Talking to herself, Seeing and Hearing things that arent there, Excessive Rage, Cutting or Hurting herself, Eating Disorders, Or a History of Being In and Out(repeatedly) of the Psych Hospitals Or Drug and Substance Abuse Treatment Centers.
-I personally cant handle if my Femme has or has ever had A Drug And Or Alcohol Abuse Problem. I think Alcohol in moderation. And I am Pro-Weed, Its just not for me.
-I like femmes who actually have regular pap tests and breast exams. And who gets checked for stds, hiv, and hepatitus before entering into a new sexual relationship with me.
-Keeping good Dental Hygiene and that means going to the dentist 1-3 times a year for teeth cleaning.
-Having a Family doctor(s) that she sees in case she gets sick. That she's taking care of her health even if she has to take medication regularly.

I would love to be with a Femme who hasnt had Troubles With The Law
-Having a History(past or present)of being Arrested, Ever in Jail, Have/Had Warrants, Tickets for D.U.I or wreckless driving, License ever Suspended.-Or Trouble with Child Protective Services.-She Must have Valid Identification Driver's License or some type of Non Driver's I.D.

[Scuba]

1. Dishonesty
2. Dishonesty
3. Dishonesty

Most of everything I have dealt with all comes down to dishonesty...

[Kätzchen]

The Culture of Perfection

The way I see it, we're already perfect just like we are. It's our job to make sure we have fun being our totally imperfect human selves and enjoy the mistakes we make or the mess that might have gotten just a little bit too big for us to handle. Because that's what being together should be like, right??? Building a mysteriously lovely, sexy, sweaty, gigantic orbit of love we can share together, happily. Now that's the 'culture of perfection' I'm talking about. Zero expectations of perfection; 100% expectation that we be ourselves, no matter what!

*** This is the only deal breaker I abide by. Everything else is negotiable.

[*Anya*]

My nonnegotiables:

1. Honesty always.

2. If commitments made: fidelity and monogamy.

3. Willing to do whatever it takes to solve communication problems in the relationship because issues and differences arise in all relationships. This is an important value of mine.

This does not include abusive behavior or lying. Those behaviors are unsalvageable to me.

[CA_BabyCakes]

Originally Posted by Ciaran

Three of my non-negotiables:

• Respect for my private space and alone time. Even if I'm madly in love with you, I often need downtime alone. This includes a recognition and desire that we should not do everything together in our spare time i.e. having some separate interests and separate friends should be encouraged.

• Awareness that my politics are likely to be very different from yours. I don't ask you to like or agree with my politics but I ask that you tolerate my views and, assuming we do disagree politically, keep political conversations to a minimum.

• Please don't get jealous of my love of Kermit but there needs to be room for three in our relationship. Be comforted that my love for Kermit is platonic and non-threatening to our relationship (for the time being at least).

Ciaran i have already told you that Kermit is MINE and i do not share. Im a stingy girl. Thank you for your understanding.

[CA_BabyCakes]

1. Sense of humor, I love someone who can make me laugh, and in return someone who can laugh at all my silly jokes and comments and not get offended.

2. Integrity!! I have tons of it you must be able to match mine.

3. Loyalty and fidelity, I am a one guy one girl kinda girl, as i have previously stated, I dont share well.

Is there such a person who exists?

[bcelly1894]

Originally Posted by CA_BabyCakes

1. Sense of humor, I love someone who can make me laugh, and in return someone who can laugh at all my silly jokes and comments and not get offended.

2. Integrity!! I have tons of it you must be able to match mine.

3. Loyalty and fidelity, I am a one guy one girl kinda girl, as i have previously stated, I dont share well.

Is there such a person who exists?

I would like to hear one of your silly jokes.