LGBTIQ Children

[Sachita]

Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

For several years I have been convinced that my daughter (18) is bi-sexual...now I am not sure what to think. She asked me what I thought about her having a sex change operation; she doesn't feel really girly and she likes to wear pants and tops.

As always I reassured her that I love her no matter what, but I am thinking she needs someone more than me to talk to about all of this. I asked her if she felt like she was a male in a female body, and she really couldn't answer me. So if I suggest counciling will that come off as me thinking something is "wrong" with her? Will I do more harm...or how do I do no harm?

I know people here have transitioned, but have your children considered this?

I have to work now, but I'll be back later.

Blessings

she may be a little confused with sexual identity. My son, raised in a very diversified home, claimed bisexuality when he was a teenager and discovering sex. I wondered if exposing him to gays, kinky people, trans, was a good thing or not. I always told him he would make his own choices but I wasn't sure how to properly guide him other then providing him with the information I felt was appropriate. For instance I got him a beautiful book about sex and all the different types of sex including fetish and kinky. I did the same thing with religion giving him a book on religions and spirituality. I explained that these were choices people made and that it was all ok no matter what anyone said. I invited him to discuss it after he read them but to be honest I wondered if I would be bias so I arranged for him to speak with a therapist after extensive research. I explained to him that I did not think anything was wrong with him but that sometimes it helps to talk to someone outside of our family to sort through things and that we could still talk about anything.

It helped greatly but I also made sure we talked a lot.

Its common for our kids to try and emulate us even if its not the right choice for them. I believe that its our job, as parents to guide them and not make them carbon copies.