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03-15-2012, 02:29 PM
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Out at work
Yes, I'm out at work. I haven't experienced any discrimination or backlash, or even much interest. I have long hair, and wear dresses, or a skirt and blouse and heels every day, plus I'm older, so maybe when people see me it doesn't set off any "warning alarms." Ha, if they only knew!
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03-15-2012, 03:04 PM
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Timed Out
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Kind, sweet, loving, romantic and a rare Butch. :) Relationship Status:
I don't drive a Uhaul. :) 
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I'm sooo out at work that anyone standing next to me is gay too. Lol
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03-15-2012, 03:08 PM
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Practically Lives Here
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dee Relationship Status:
Hitched up 
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I've been out at every job! Being an invisible femme people
assume i'm straight. After sending empty boxes to myself so the UPS butch can come See me several times they figure it out. |
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03-15-2012, 03:29 PM
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Practically Lives Here
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50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status:
married to my forever 
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all 21 years of my Nursing career, I was OUT! and PROUD! I have never, ever been harassed, heckled, or had any kind of hassles with my being gay. Even in public, with discreet PDA's. Even though I am retired, I am still OUT & PROUD! and still NO kind of issues anywhere I go...
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03-15-2012, 03:42 PM
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Butch Relationship Status:
Flying Solo 
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03-15-2012, 03:42 PM
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Out at work btw
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03-15-2012, 03:53 PM
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Hitched to Red 
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I have never been in or out. I know that will sound strange to some but I have always assumed that it was ok to be who I am and if people figure out I am a "lesbian" then good for them. I don't require them to let me know if they are straight therefore I have never considered it to be a requirement that I tell them I am lesbian.
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03-15-2012, 05:41 PM
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Practically Lives Here
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once our repair person was a butch, i kept *breaking* things in my office... |
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03-15-2012, 06:10 PM
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03-15-2012, 06:12 PM
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Oh, and I quoted Dee because I can totally relate. The last thing I want is a flood of bio-men hitting on the new girl! Femmes have to come out as a precautionary measure!
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03-15-2012, 06:17 PM
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Practically Lives Here
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One of our foremen said to him * are you SURE she is gay???* And of course the one who said *she hasn't met the RIGHT man yet* at which i replied if we were the two people on earth, mankind would end with us. |
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03-15-2012, 06:21 PM
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I know right!
I always tell them, if I had a nickel for every time I've heard that I just haven't met the right man yet, or worse, "I'm a lesbian too, trapped in a man's body", I'd be richer than Donald Trump. Guys can be SOOO original
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03-16-2012, 10:27 AM
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she, her Relationship Status:
feeling pretty darned blissful right now! 
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Then that settled down a lot, but I was still determined to stay out in everything I did. I didn't advertise it (other than all the pride bumper stickers I had on my car in their parking lots), but I didn't hide anything either. I really didn't get hassled at all. My last company I worked for in FL before moving here and opening my own business, they all knew from right away, about my sexual orientation, about my being in recovery, etc. It actually helped me many times, since I worked in the behavioral health field. I also got to be the "token expert" on all things gay. And yeah, I have had female co-workers (straight) try to hit on me. I have heard on many an occasion that I just don't LOOK gay at all! |
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03-30-2012, 01:24 AM
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I am out at work, although I wasn't for the first 2 years that I worked there. You just never know with people in kansas...well people anywhere really. I got tired of hiding it though and just kinda jumped out. Turned out everyone was really accepting and now the guys at work constantly crack jokes with me, I love it.
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04-08-2012, 08:17 PM
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I'm completely out at work... though I'm butch enough to trigger even the faultest gardar... totally funny when my last manager would get flustered everytime he'd call me "sir".... I work in a very accepting environment though... my computer has a pic collage of my gal, her son, and my son proudly displayed... and we attend company events as a couple...
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04-08-2012, 08:28 PM
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Butch, Switch, Comedian...G...whichever. Preferred Pronoun?:
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For me, the question is when am I NOT out, ANYWHERE I go?
 I just started a new job at a huge engineering firm....I am positive that not one person that has seen me come and go from the building thinks I am straight. Even though I didn't have to "come out" at work, there is still an awkward uneasiness around all of my female co-workers....not on my part though. I try to make conversation, but they just kind of turn and walk away. They don't make eye contact, and when it is time for a meeting that I don't know about, they leave me sitting in my cubicle and send one of the guys to get me. I can honestly say that some days I wish I blended in and could go on about my business without the awkwardness. That will never happen with me. It's funny, there is another thread on BFP about femmes having to come out all the time and how they are not noticed, and most of the time, I so wish I was NOT noticed so easily. It's like when you have straight hair and want curly hair or vice versa...lol
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04-14-2012, 08:39 PM
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he/she/hey you..... Relationship Status:
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I am totally out at work and have been in all the places that I have worked as an adult. It is not something that happens on the first day you walk in but after you have been able to gauge people's responses. I have been fortunate enough that my peers accept me and in fact have been educated to some degree because I am open to discussing most anything they may be wondering about.
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08-14-2012, 09:01 PM
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A Lady..Femme..Free Spirit with a touch of survivalist woman in me. Preferred Pronoun?:
Spiritual Warrior..She Ra..Baby Doll, or anything close..ha! Relationship Status:
In perfect love and perfect trust I believe that will be directed..for now Just friends in my life.
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It would be extremely hard for me to do that considering my clientell are my own...My other job is also child based and probably about 200 to 300 children each event. Ha!
But in years before now at work..Yes I was also out when in medical field positions. But should someone ask..Sure I would most definately tell them the truth..Like one on my client I have a session with. .
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10-02-2012, 03:12 PM
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Toe curling :-) 
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03-15-2012, 04:24 PM
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BBW. Unique femininity that does not encompass the western paradigm. Preferred Pronoun?:
Anything Respectful! Relationship Status:
Single, Happy, not Desparate or Looking, but Open to Possibilities... 
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I’m Out and Proud at work; always have been. There aren’t many gays where I work…..there’s only two of us and he’s the Stone Mason, lol! I’ve not met with much prejudice and so many have said they would never have guessed, lol! The works annual Ball my partner has always been invited.
At work I try to maintain a high level of professionalism, especially as I deal with students, relatives, the Police, etc. I’m Out and Proud at the Disabled Arts Studio. I’m the only Lesbian and there are three gay guys.
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