Butches and Body Image - Let's Talk About It

girl_dee · 03-16-2012, 06:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Gemme

Not so imaginary things are able to be caught, however. I totally get the hovering, but really wish they'd just use the damn toilet seat cover or, if there's not one, put tissue on the seat.

All bathrooms that don't have an attendant are icky.

and what amazes me is the baby changing station.

Okie it doesn't matter where you are because narrow minded stupid people are everywhere. I've been with a butch twice when the bathroom thing happened.. once in Oregon and once in Alabama. Both times my partner was confronted by males who made snide comments about the butch being in the *wrong bathroom* as they exited or entered and in a completely confrontational manner.

Okiebug61 · 03-16-2012, 06:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

Okie it doesn't matter where you are because narrow minded stupid people are everywhere. I've been with a butch twice when the bathroom thing happened.. once in Oregon and once in Alabama. Both times my partner was confronted by males who made snide comments about the butch being in the *wrong bathroom* as they exited or entered and in a completely confrontational manner.

I was just curious. Being from Oklahoma we don't have a lot of positive things going on for our community. Red and I went see Melissa E a few years back and I saw more Lesbians in one place than I had seen in years. There were many hard core butches and I never once saw anyone having problems with the bathroom issue. Maybe I don't keep my eyes open well enough,for I would not stand by and let this happen If I were present. It just saddens me when someone has to be nervous, scared or anything else when they need to go to the bathroom.

Dude · 03-16-2012, 07:28 AM

I geuss for me, I dont take it so personal anymore.
Of course it's awkward and I'd prefer that it did not happen but
It's not really my issue how someone interprets my gender.
Showing someone proof of what I am is not a natural urge ,for me.

Let's say grandma and maybe your neice were in stalls 3 and 4 ,
someone enters bathroom who you read as male.
What would your response be to them?
Have I been offended and embaressed? yes ,of course
I had one lady peek over the stall even.

To me what is "totally disturbing" is being beaten because then
it is personal. I think it would be interesting to do a poll on the
areas in which this has happened to people.
I feel fortunate to have only once experienced some teenage
kids screaming queers out their window while walking with a girlfriend
down the street 20 years ago.

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03-16-2012, 07:28 AM	#3
Dude Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Perusing Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: exit 5 with an exit 21 goal Posts: 1,725 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,351 Thanked 10,605 Times in 1,477 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I geuss for me, I dont take it so personal anymore. Of course it's awkward and I'd prefer that it did not happen but It's not really my issue how someone interprets my gender. Showing someone proof of what I am is not a natural urge ,for me. Let's say grandma and maybe your neice were in stalls 3 and 4 , someone enters bathroom who you read as male. What would your response be to them? Have I been offended and embaressed? yes ,of course I had one lady peek over the stall even. To me what is "totally disturbing" is being beaten because then it is personal. I think it would be interesting to do a poll on the areas in which this has happened to people. I feel fortunate to have only once experienced some teenage kids screaming queers out their window while walking with a girlfriend down the street 20 years ago.