What was it about your lover...

[Dude]

good kisser
confidence
humor
pretty brown eyes
and a sweet neck

my basics for the big love

[stargazingboi]

It really is hard to describe ...laws of attraction. Over the years I have learned many things…I pay attention to what is happening within and I listen.

If you took two magnets and held them close to each other, but did not allow them to touch, you would feel a pull. You would feel an unwavering, uncontrollable need to connect, touch and become one. It is their design, the makeup of magnets, they must connect…and to deny it is to stop its purpose for being, its nature.

Well, that’s what I felt, I was pulled to her; I was drawn to her without any rhyme or reason. No matter how much I tried to break it down logically I could not. I was not looking for love; love was actually the last thing on my mind at the time.

The day we first met, I felt a world wind of emotions…and had no idea why, I had never been nervous like this before, but when I caught a glimpse of her eyes I knew. Somehow, I knew her…I had a true feeling of knowing and loving her before.

When I am upset she soothes me ...at times with just a single look. With a touch I am ignited with desire, comfort, and joy. An energy flows between us no matter how close or how far we are from each other… an energy is shared. We can feel each other’s shifts and moods…we may not know exactly what is happening with the other but we can feel it, and we are drawn to check in with each other when we feel these shifts.

I felt comfortable enough to open up about stories I kept locked within, I trusted her from the very first moment. I could and still can talk with her about anything…I can joke around and be silly or I can talk about the depths of my being, without judgment. She just gets me.

It is unexplainable; I struggle to put it into words. I feel at a loss really even as I write, words cannot do it justice. So, the best way I can describe it is I am home, I am where I belong.

[Silverseastar]

The deep loves I have experienced have had a few things in common: strong almost magnetic energy connection that kept us always touching, long conversations that covered everything from ideas to beliefs, compatible values, similar life goals, a sense of humour, a sense of adventure, a passion for something beyond ourselves- community, family, etc..., and a feeling of trust and safety which created a further intimacy.

I must admit I am straying away from the emotional poetic components I would usually express more eloquently as my heart aches a little still from dating someone recently, feeling these things so profoundly, and them ending up having PTSD and then watching it all fall away.

It makes my heart glad to know that others can have and sustain these sorts of beautiful love connections and hope some day to have my own great romance again. I believe in it's value. In fact I have a tattoo on my upper arm of a woman offering up her heart with a crown of stars on her head. It's my reminder to always stay connected to my spiritual self as open hearted and willing to give my love (in all contexts) even when it's hard.

[starryeyes]

At first, her eyes. They are a striking blue and look right into your soul (seriously) I had never met someone with such striking eyes! Then it was her mannerisims. She has treated me like no one ever has treated me in my life. She makes me feel like the most beautiful, cared for, adores femme in the world. She does anything for me, including talking to me at 3am on my way to work last night to make sure I am safe. Her love is bountiful and I am so proud and honored to call her my loverdaddywomanbutch for the rest of our lives

[apretty]

E had years of therapy before I even met him and thus, emotional health and amazing boundaries which I admire, still.

Salt and Pepper pompadour, black rimmed eyeglasses, sweater vest and tie, grey J Crew dress pants and he brought me some artisan chocolates when we met.

On that first date, E never wavered from being appropriate and respectful while steadfastly determined to get me in a roadside motel.

[Medusa]

She made me laugh until I peed and drooled while ogling me.

Then she sent me a colon cleansing kit as a love gift. *instant amour!*

[Miss_J]

That is absolute hilarity and amazing connection!

[Quintease]

I'd love to contribute to this but he's annoyed me today.

He always say's 'But would you change me?' and I always reply with 'No, but there's bits of you I could happily live without.'

[Novelafemme]

...the way she raises one eyebrow when discussing something complex. her black prada glasses and her hazel eyes. she has impeccable style and walks with such confidence, yet is the most humble person i know.

like apretty said, years of therapy and self-work resulted in her knowing how to communicate and assert who she is when need be. and the j crew pants don't hurt one bit.

we just fit. instantly. there was no second guessing or fear. have we had our "moments"...of course! but ultimately it was written for us. we simply had to follow the notes.

[Inked_Trinity]

She is so open and honest! She has a wonderful sarcastic wit!

[DaddysKitten]

I remember late night talks with him, completely chaste before, any sort of 'acknowledged chemistry' began. He was so traditional, much like I am, and our beliefs seem too old to the world, that I had decided long before this that I would either have to settle, or be alone. And settling was indeed out of the question.

Without even knowing it, we had solidified a basis for our future relationship with those late night talks that left me curled in bed, just so overjoyed that someone out there still saw things the way I did. Ways that so many had forgotten, or even now see as, male chauvinistic.

I loved those old ideas of being a stay at home housewife, barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. Waiting til he came home, with dinner prepared, and ready to serve his every need and whim, contently. Thanking him in even the simplest ways for providing for his family.

And then our relationship moved to another level, and everything just felt so natural, so very natural. We slipped into a Daddy/babygirl relationship without it ever even being something either of has had considered before. Our D/s dynamic had been set in stone before the idea of 'dating' even came to our minds.

I think it was much like before the internet, when you just really spent the time to get to know someone, before hopping into discussions of expectations on an intimate level. We just... happened.

And then, time grew on, and his touch. I remember the electrification of the simplest thing, even a brush of his fingers to my cheek. I remember being so breathless after our first simple kiss. And again, everything, from sitting around talking for hours just snuggling, to the darker sides of our intimate life together.

Intelligent, pride, confidence, sex appeal, kindness, tenderness. All things I saw and embraced about him. Finally the man I had dreamt of since I was a young girl, had come gone from a dream to becoming reality. And here we are.

In love, planning our future, both of us had so many walls up, and they have all come crumbling down, leaving us raw, vulnerable, and so in love.

I love him, more than words can describe. Even the word 'love' seems almost generic in comparison to what I truly feel.

I worship you, Daddy. Always... and forever.

[Tuff Stuff]

Originally Posted by Dude

good kisser
confidence
humor
pretty brown eyes
and a sweet neck

my basics for the big love

I'll second that,oh,and she likes to be on top...snaps my spine back into place every time..love ya,baby

[Shystonefem]

My initial attraction, most often, was undeniable chemistry. I was always attracted to the person that I either had a crazy spiritual connection or someone that I could totally see just "doing" in the parking lot before even an introduction... (that crazy fantasy thing)..... but that doesn't mean love

Someone who hold my hand just to make sure I don't trip and fall, someone that can hold a conversation, someone who is genuinely interested in how my day was, the person that would be first on my list to call when something really great or even really bad happens. A sense of humor, someone who will dance with me in the middle of the kitchen. An unspoken connection that allows you to just know.

A gooday kisser in mandatory. Lol

[Daisy Chain]

Don`t know how I had missed this thread up til now.....? So in answer to..

``` what was it about your partner that caught your eye? What drew you in and captured your attention, mind and ultimately your heart?```

Initially it was the quick and fun banter that we shared and how we laughed at the same things and fell so quickly into step with each other as if we had always been the best of friends....that was a few years ago now.

After that it was time and different situations where time and time again Hys love was unconditional, unassuming and ongoing. Hy never had any expectations of me, never pressurized me in any way, just patiently allowed me space to work through many things always being there for me.

Due to the distance, commitments we both had I, in my infinite wisdom, decided our relationship was bringing more heartache than happiness...given the endless longing and other issues LDR`s present. And so I set Hym free, go and have a life in real time I said, find a Femme who can be in your bed every night, go out and actually do stuff with you etc etc...I was told gently and lovingly that `it would always be me for Hym`. So we had hardly any contact for a long time......

And now, after all that time and my cancer diagnosis...I found Hy was still there for me, waiting patiently as ever, loving me and making me laugh.
Hy is content to enjoy what we have, Hy has taught me so much and taken the restless analyzing from my outlook. And so I can answer the question...that Hys unconditional love, strength and patience ultimately won my heart. I am blessed to have Hys love.....I finally understand that was all I ever needed.

[Karysma]

We know what love is but tell us... what was it about your partner that caught your eye? What drew you in and captured your attention, mind and ultimately your heart?


Hmm.. well. I have been thinking a lot lately about the nature of attraction because the saying is that the qualities that attracted you to your partner initially are the ones that you will come to resent the most in them. Probably because if they attracted you then they could attract someone else?

With my spouse-ish I think it was that conversation came so easily to her. She was larger than life and funny. She was focused on me - and interested in me - and enjoyed talking to me. We had deep conversations... and I think that bonded us in a way. We spent hours talking about nothing too...

It was an intense time!

Shortly following that it was her insistence that I was the one for her. She proposed within 6 months even though we were long distance for 2yrs. She fostered a feeling in me that I was the most beautiful and desirable person on the planet. I had a faith in her love that I didn't think could ever be shaken. I loved that she made me feel safe in her love and that there wasn't anything I could do to change it.

Of course that was a long time ago... lol!

[puddin']

We know what love is but tell us... what was it about your partner that caught your eye? What drew you in and captured your attention, mind and ultimately your heart?


her humour, smile, eyes, gift for gab, wantin' to play games, her mind, her 2 children who became mine.

and then not so much when she was wit' someone else same time she was wit' me.

bitter much, damn straight... 6 years together gone jus' like that.

[JDeere]

Her smile
The way she kisses
Her don't take any shit attitude
She is a hustler, works her ass off just to pay the bills!