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~ocean · 04-09-2012, 12:22 PM

soulmate there is one in our lives ..a freind cane be a soulmate .. a lover as well. there r many levels of love, and we can love many times in a life time. if u wait for that one person to come along .. u r missing many oppertunitys to experience a lover .. who can become ur soulmate.. even if u never have a soulmate ..that doesnt mean u didnt love to ur fullest, or have been loved .. enjoy life ~ ocean

Gráinne · 04-09-2012, 02:05 PM

Short answer: no. I think the idea is out of romantic novels and movies.

Longer answer (and you knew it was coming!

): I think there are any number of people that we could be happy with in a relationship. I think compatitibility and committment are much more important than that "instant connection". Attraction is instant, real love takes a boatload of work.

I also don't believe in finding one's "better half" or the someone to "complete" you, or fill up some emptiness inside. I believe instead you better well be complete and filled on your own before you even try to find someone. To search around for completion or someone to fill in the blanks is asking for an unhealthy relationship.

agape · 03-10-2013, 12:20 PM

I do believe in soul-mates. I do believe in fate.
I also do believe that relationships need work, always.
But I wouldn't want to miss all the lovely people I might meet while "waiting" for a soul-mate.
Also, I'm not sure the soul-mate will always come... (you never know, they might get stuck in traffic, the world is a big place... etc)

03-10-2013, 12:42 PM

I believe there are people who are in your life at the right times but definitely don't believe in one 'true' love or 'soulmate'...too much white picket fence thinking for me.

I'm lucky enough to have had 2 great loves in my life...in amongst the numbers who weren't 'great loves'.

I don't understand making one person your everything. Jeepers! what a pressure to put on someone! I would hate to someone's everything; as a human being I can't live up to that job because I'm dreadfully flawed.

04-09-2012, 02:05 PM	#2
Gráinne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Neither, nada, out of the box Preferred Pronoun?: My name always works Relationship Status: Happy whatever happens Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Little Rock Posts: 1,864 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,118 Thanked 7,386 Times in 1,457 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Short answer: no. I think the idea is out of romantic novels and movies. Longer answer (and you knew it was coming! ): I think there are any number of people that we could be happy with in a relationship. I think compatitibility and committment are much more important than that "instant connection". Attraction is instant, real love takes a boatload of work. I also don't believe in finding one's "better half" or the someone to "complete" you, or fill up some emptiness inside. I believe instead you better well be complete and filled on your own before you even try to find someone. To search around for completion or someone to fill in the blanks is asking for an unhealthy relationship. __________________ The odds of going to the store for a loaf of bread and coming out with only a loaf of bread are three billion to one. ~Erma Bombeck

03-10-2013, 12:20 PM	#3
agape Member How Do You Identify?: queer Preferred Pronoun?: don't care Join Date: Mar 2013 Location: earth Posts: 375 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,537 Thanked 671 Times in 203 Posts Rep Power: 9378959	I do believe in soul-mates. I do believe in fate. I also do believe that relationships need work, always. But I wouldn't want to miss all the lovely people I might meet while "waiting" for a soul-mate. Also, I'm not sure the soul-mate will always come... (you never know, they might get stuck in traffic, the world is a big place... etc) __________________ "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear." Martin Luther King, Jr.

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04-09-2012, 12:22 PM	#1
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,014 Times in 4,724 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	soulmate there is one in our lives ..a freind cane be a soulmate .. a lover as well. there r many levels of love, and we can love many times in a life time. if u wait for that one person to come along .. u r missing many oppertunitys to experience a lover .. who can become ur soulmate.. even if u never have a soulmate ..that doesnt mean u didnt love to ur fullest, or have been loved .. enjoy life ~ ocean

03-10-2013, 12:42 PM	#4
Daktari Guest Tournaments Won: 1 Posts: n/a My Photo Gallery	I believe there are people who are in your life at the right times but definitely don't believe in one 'true' love or 'soulmate'...too much white picket fence thinking for me. I'm lucky enough to have had 2 great loves in my life...in amongst the numbers who weren't 'great loves'. I don't understand making one person your everything. Jeepers! what a pressure to put on someone! I would hate to someone's everything; as a human being I can't live up to that job because I'm dreadfully flawed.