would you date someone with significantly different beliefs?

[laruss]

It depends on the person. I have been in relationships with people who have similar beliefs and some who have had very different beliefs. It comes down to respect of the individual. I had a harder time with one person who supposedly had the same beliefs, as they kept putting words in my mouth, answering things for me and just assuming we were exactly the same in our thinking. One person with the very different beliefs was a great debater and we agreed to disagree on many things, it worked for us.
So my answer would be yes I would as long as they were respectful and they would need to have some idea of Spirit and our connectedness.

[thedivahrrrself]

I should amend mine to say I could not date a blatant bigot. Misogynistic, sexist, racist....these are not attractive viewpoints.

So, within reason, I appreciate people with different views from my own. I'm from Oklahoma, for goodness sake, if I only hung out with people like me, I'd be up shit creek, as they say.

[Soft*Silver]

I am not Christian but chrissy is very much Christian. He went to college to be a minister, in fact. Does he press his religious outlook on me? Not at all. Does he live by his religious outlook and not just mouth the words? Yes. I respect him so much for being a believer and a do-er in his faith. He, however, struggles with my paganism and my supernatural beliefs. He doesnt believe in psychics, yet my daughter is one. He doesnt believe in tarot, yet I read cards. He certainly doesnt believe in reincarnation, but I am sure of it. Would he go to a ritual with me? MMM...probably but would not respect it like I would wish he would. In other words, I think he would grumble under his breath throughout it. I do go to Christian rituals and am well behaved in them. Does any of this matter in our relationship? Not yet. And I hope it never does.

I dont date republicans. We would argue too much.

I have clear beliefs in how children should be raised. I would be hard pressed to date someone who did not honor this with my child, and if the way they raised their own children was deemed detrimental to the child by me, I would not be able to continue the relationship.

In my last year of drinking way back in the 80s, I actually dated someone who was racist. I talk about that as being one of my "bottoms". I could not do that now.

The biggest issue for me to overcome, is not religions or money or politics. Its animals. I am an avid animal lover. I smell of horse every chance I get. I have dog drool everywhere in my house. Cat fur clings to me like magnets. I am an animal lover. If someone did not like animals, especially animals in the house, that would be a deal breaker for me. And if they resented me rescuing animals, well, it would end quickly.

[Corkey]

My short answer, no. There is something to be said for a peaceful home. That being said neither of us think exactly alike, but at our core we have the same values, morals, and political leanings. I think it's the word significant that puts a wrench in it for me.

[BullDog]

As Belle has said, we do have very different religious and spiritual beliefs and it isn't a problem at all for us. I did grow up in a Christian household so I do understand the personal and day-to-day level of it and not just as an organized religion.

I honestly cannot imagine being with someone who was politically Conservative or had a very different value system than me.

[CherylNYC]

I would have to trust and respect a person in order to date them. That means they couldn't be a bigot, and they couldn't be dishonest or mean. That, to me, rules out conservative Republicans.

I'm a Pagan/Wiccan, and my long-ago ex was a rabid athiest when I met her. Like many atheists I've met since then, she was a proselytizer, and she did her best to convert me. (There are so many good reasons why we didn't stay together.) I simply demanded that my ex respect me, and I exlained my spirituality to her whenever she asked. I never discussed it with her unless she initiated the discussion. I was really astonished when my ex did a 180 degree turn and explored and embraced her own brand of Goddess worship within two years of meeting me. I tried my best to support her without imposing.

Now I would date a person of any faith as long as they have some sort of spiritual life. I once dated a Christian pastor, but it's easiest to date other Pagans/Wiccans. My late partner Sharon and I came from the exact same Wiccan tradition, and it was wonderful. She and I had very similar values and politics. We did have a very strange moment once when I ended up in the hospital with a dangerous bacterial infection. I had been admitted and was put on IV antibiotics. My fever was quite high and I was slipping in and out of consciousness while the staff tried to ascertain my medical history. They asked about my history of pregnancy, and while I mumbled a wan answer I caught a glimpse of Sharon's face. Even barely conscious and burning up with fever, I suddenly understood that Sharon was against abortion unless it was necessary to save the life of the mother! It had simply never come up between us prior to that moment. Since we respected each other we didn't end up with a damaging conflict about it, but the look on her face certainly concerned me at the time.

I'm now dating someone who will go to political rallies and demonstrations with me. We have great conversations about race and feminism, too. The answer is that I would date someone with different beliefs, but I would rather not.

[always2late]

I think it all comes down to respect. I could date someone of a different religion, as long as MY beliefs were respected, because I would respect theirs. I agree with some of the other posts in that I could never date a racist or bigot. Could I date a politically conservative person? Hmm...that's a bit tougher to answer. I don't think I could...because our perspectives and world-view would be much too different...I think it would create too much discord within the relationship.