Butches and Body Image - Let's Talk About It

[Ginger]

[QUOTE=mr.misnomer;599777

for me, accepting my body has been a thing that i've had to do more than once. as i age, my body changes, and my feelings about it change. as i age, and my perspective changes, my feelings about my place in the world change. and, honestly, as i age, the public (in general) seems a little more accepting (or, maybe i'm getting better at ignoring them . [/QUOTE]



Dear Mr. M,

You bring up an interesting point, which is, how does aging affect the culture's level of acceptance of people, like butches, who present in ways that are not hetero-normative?

I wonder if you are on to something; if there is indeed more acceptance of butches once they reach a certain age.

I think it might be the opposite for femmes—we become more invisible, and are devalued because of our age.

Anyway, thanks for putting your thoughts out there.

Welcome to the Planet!

Scout

[~ocean]

thers nothing invisable about a confident aging butch w. grey o r slightly greying hair .. makes this femme swoon

[Okiebug61]

I wonder who's thoughts on image some us worry about. Is it our own or what we want others to think of us. I'm a light butch and as I said before. For the most of my life I have only been picked out of a crowd by someone who is LGBT and very seldom by a straight person. The image I have of myself is I am who I am, the lovers/girlfriends/partners I have have had never questioned my image (or if they did they never told me) and I it has never been requested by anyone I have been with to look or act a certain way. It has always bothered me that society has such a stronghold on what a girl or boy should act or look like. Screw society and their hegemonic attitudes.

We own our lives and we have the right to dress as we want, cut our hair as we want, present ourselves as we want without being ridiculed.

Admiration to those of you who live outside the box and fight for the rights to be who you are without conceding to societies definitions.

[Ginger]

Okiebug wrote:

I wonder who's thoughts on image some us worry about. Is it our own or what we want others to think of us... Screw society and their hegemonic attitudes.


That kinda sums it up.

Scout

[StoneOne]

of friends and family and people I dont know making judgements and statements about how I look and dress, my facial hair, how I carry myselt, T , Top surgery . I am who I am and finally walking the path I should have years ago (more than I care to admit) Please dont make me be a ass and back up your bus I have had enough.
Is not my intent to be rude so I am sorry if I offend anyone but man it feels good to say out loud.
The higher power does not make mistakes and here I am so deal with it and I wont judge you all.
Thank You
ps

[StoneOne]

Originally Posted by StoneOne

of friends and family and people I dont know making judgements and statements about how I look and dress, my facial hair, how I carry myselt, T , Top surgery . I am who I am and finally walking the path I should have years ago (more than I care to admit) Please dont make me be a ass and back up your bus I have had enough.
Is not my intent to be rude so I am sorry if I offend anyone but man it feels good to say out loud.
The higher power does not make mistakes and here I am so deal with it and I wont judge you all.
Thank You
ps

my family here and all on the planet to know I feel nothing but love and respect from you all !
This post is aimed at the my personal experience not anyone here.
Thank You for the planet and all the love, respect and support
SyrDamon

[Luv]

Originally Posted by Okiebug61

I wonder who's thoughts on image some us worry about. Is it our own or what we want others to think of us. I'm a light butch and as I said before. For the most of my life I have only been picked out of a crowd by someone who is LGBT and very seldom by a straight person. The image I have of myself is I am who I am, the lovers/girlfriends/partners I have have had never questioned my image (or if they did they never told me) and I it has never been requested by anyone I have been with to look or act a certain way. It has always bothered me that society has such a stronghold on what a girl or boy should act or look like. Screw society and their hegemonic attitudes.

We own our lives and we have the right to dress as we want, cut our hair as we want, present ourselves as we want without being ridiculed.

Admiration to those of you who live outside the box and fight for the rights to be who you are without conceding to societies definitions.

well said Okie...Medusa once called me a "faggy butch" cause I love all things theater,musical etc lol

Im just mellow..take me as I am or not at all. In the community they look at me and say id=butch,,Ive never liked being called "sir" because I am femaile-identified..now,,I sit here with my hair pulled back into a small ponytail...,, I guess as I hit my 50's I dont care as how people see me anymore on the outside as long as they know its the insides that last

[Okiebug61]

Originally Posted by Luv

well said Okie...Medusa once called me a "faggy butch" cause I love all things theater,musical etc lol

Im just mellow..take me as I am or not at all. In the community they look at me and say id=butch,,Ive never liked being called "sir" because I am femaile-identified..now,,I sit here with my hair pulled back into a small ponytail...,, I guess as I hit my 50's I dont care as how people see me anymore on the outside as long as they know its the insides that last

Well hey "Faggy Butch" I'm with you on this. I love the theater and musicals. Red and I are hoping you stop and stay a few days when you head back to Tenn. You are bringing Gypsy correct?