Can You Really Be Friends With An Ex?

Quintease · 06-17-2012, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by homoe

I agree with Funky, sometimes it all depends on why you broke up! I am still friends with my ex and now she's even my BFF! I always consider it a big ole red flag when I meet someone and they tell me all of their ex's hate them!

Agreed. I dated someone who was hated by all of her exes, only to later discover why.
I wouldn't hold it against someone if they hadn't remained friends with their exes however. I know myself I have tried to stay friends with certain exes but travelling and new relationships have usually put paid to that. My ex wife, for example, is now living it large in a beautiful and sunny city, while I'm married and planning a baby in a place where it always rains. We have little in common.

AtLast · 06-17-2012, 04:22 PM

I agree with the "why" & "how" the break-up occured in terms of remaining friends. Also, sometimes we can be attracted off the charts to someone romantically, but, find that this fizzles when one (or both) realizes that it just isn't a good match. Yet, you have a lot in common and work well as friends.

bkisbutchenuff · 06-19-2012, 03:54 AM

Exes can be a great resource...however, it depends on the circumstances - the foundation of the relationship and the breakup. It took many years, but my first ex, a colleague who I admire greatly professionally, is actually one of my bff's. After an 11 yrs relationship, we still have each others back. Friends are friends and for me - that equals family ...

shiagirl · 06-19-2012, 04:25 AM

Yes you can but at a distance lol

Tommi · 06-19-2012, 06:31 AM

Yes, I sure hope so, because it would be a lonely planet if not.

(counting Ex's on fingers N toes,, Yes, mostly

well, there were a few with wildly waving arms and ****** or berserk *or worse.

Really...no. no Really

jules5041 · 06-19-2012, 06:46 AM

I think absolutely you can be friends with an ex. I definately am. I was with my ex for ten years and I can't imagine not having hym currently in my life. We both evolved into the people we are today because of those ten years. I would hate to throw away such an important friendship just because we could not make our relationship work.

Thanks for letting me share!

Jules with numbers

Darbonaire · 12-01-2012, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by jules5041

I think absolutely you can be friends with an ex. I definately am. I was with my ex for ten years and I can't imagine not having hym currently in my life. We both evolved into the people we are today because of those ten years. I would hate to throw away such an important friendship just because we could not make our relationship work.

Thanks for letting me share!

Jules with numbers

I used to think the answer to this question would be "yes"...I have established friendships with ex's before but....now....I'm honestly not so sure...sad thing it is too....

Jonathan

06-19-2012, 06:31 AM	#5
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06-17-2012, 04:22 PM	#2
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