A question for the butches....

[Tres]

Originally Posted by fludderbies

I'm wondering... What would be the easiest, nicest way to hear that your femme would like to try new things/spice it up in the bedroom? I love my wife very much and the last thing i want to do is hurt her butch ego. Thanks in advance! :-)



Fludderbies

I think its awesome that you feel so passionate about your butch that you want to keep those fires burning! You obviously care deeply about her. Sometimes its hard to talk about things that are uncomfortable for our partners, but discussing those uncomfortable things gets us to the soft spots too.

And for me I think it is essential that my wife feels like she can talk to me about ANYTHING - If I knew she couldn't, then that would sting worse than any suggestions/wishes she might have to spice up our sex life.

On sensitive subjects the time and place are just as important as the subject itself - Play a game with her - Play out her fantasy ~~ If you dont know what it is ASK her - Sometimes role playing is just what is needed to get that fire burning, and more importantly, keep it burning! Send some sexy text messages, write her a sexy love letter, strip for her to some hot ass music, handcuffs, blindfolds. You get the picture. Discusss with her the things that turn you both on and remember the key here is communication. Good luck to you!

Tres