Non-performing drag kings

Corkey · 08-29-2012, 09:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by starryeyes

Maybe I am misunderstanding here, but since when is a masculine dressing butch considered a "non performing drag king" *shrugging shoulders*

Lost.

We're not but perhaps the lingo is new?

aishah · 08-29-2012, 09:38 PM

or maybe it's just awkward lingo?

my partner has expressed discomfort with being perceived as a drag king when he dresses in masculine ways in his everyday life (especially since he doesn't pass and is frequently mis-gendered...and is actually a drag queen).

i have seen some people use the term drag king (usually because they weren't sure or comfortable with what word to use in what context) to refer to butches. sometimes it was because they were not familiar with drag culture or b/f culture.

stephfromMIT · 08-29-2012, 09:39 PM

Performing=Doing "drag shows".

aishah · 08-29-2012, 09:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by stephfromMIT

Performing=Doing "drag shows".

at the risk of taking up too much space in the butch zone...i think maybe the discomfort is coming from the fact that most butches i know don't necessarily id as drag kings. i know for my partner it is an expression of who he is and his identity, not a performance, and for people to read/interpret his dress as such can be upsetting or offensive.

i should probably be quiet now. (eta: eek, sorry for the pile-on - starryeyes and i were posting at the same time. oops.

)

stephfromMIT · 08-29-2012, 09:49 PM

Don't worry aishah, I need the education.

Parker · 08-29-2012, 10:09 PM

Interesting way to put it; but I have to chime in as a butch who dresses in what is traditionally considered masculine clothing, but who does not consider herself a drag king.

I never really thought of myself as "in drag" - just being comfy.

Liam · 08-29-2012, 10:15 PM

I present myself as male 24/7.

starryeyes · 08-29-2012, 09:41 PM

Being a drag king is being a performer in itself, same with a drag queen. There is no comparrison between a drag king and a person who chooses to life their live as masculine I'd person (perhaps trans or butch? I am bad with labels).

Anyways I am just gonna scoot out of here cause I'm lost. But anyways. Have a good night!

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