Why it's Offensive / Is it Offensive

aishah · 09-14-2012, 06:37 PM

try this:

Is it offensive for a non-femme person to challenge a femme person's experience of how they experience being femme or how it started?

Is it offensive that Anderson Cooper said he has friends who are femme as part of his challenge to this person's experience?

Is interviewing a person with an extremely unique story about how she thinks she became femme in itself offensive?

Is this offensive because the femme being interviewed is felt not to represent femmes well? Is she expected to represent a more common experience?

Is it really "misinforming the public about the causality of femme identity" to interview this one person with this one unique story?

those questions don't make you feel anything, as a femme? because they make me feel upset.

i'm not trans but i think it's offensive to question or imply people's experiences and identities aren't real. someone doesn't "think they're trans," imho...they are or they aren't. if someone says they are trans (or femme or butch) i take them at their word. there is more than one way to come to identify as trans (or femme or butch). and yes, it's invalidating and offensive to me that he apparently pulled the "i have trans friends and they don't see it this way" card.

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09-14-2012, 06:37 PM	#8
aishah Member How Do You Identify?: queer stone femme shark baby girl Preferred Pronoun?: she, her, little one Relationship Status: dating myself. Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: dallas, tx Posts: 1,495 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,823 Thanked 6,442 Times in 1,288 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	try this: Is it offensive for a non-femme person to challenge a femme person's experience of how they experience being femme or how it started? Is it offensive that Anderson Cooper said he has friends who are femme as part of his challenge to this person's experience? Is interviewing a person with an extremely unique story about how she thinks she became femme in itself offensive? Is this offensive because the femme being interviewed is felt not to represent femmes well? Is she expected to represent a more common experience? Is it really "misinforming the public about the causality of femme identity" to interview this one person with this one unique story? those questions don't make you feel anything, as a femme? because they make me feel upset. i'm not trans but i think it's offensive to question or imply people's experiences and identities aren't real. someone doesn't "think they're trans," imho...they are or they aren't. if someone says they are trans (or femme or butch) i take them at their word. there is more than one way to come to identify as trans (or femme or butch). and yes, it's invalidating and offensive to me that he apparently pulled the "i have trans friends and they don't see it this way" card.