Heartbreak Hotel

cinderella · 03-12-2010, 05:40 PM

I'm a permanent resident...

Soft*Silver · 03-12-2010, 06:27 PM

I recently broke off a LDR and he and I remain best of friends. There was no drama. We had always said, if we felt it wasnt going to work, we would part as friends. He treated me so well during the relationship, that when we came to realize this could not work (for private personal reasons) we both sanely and compassionately agreed to end the romance but keep the love. I still love him and always will...but as a best friend. I feel this is how relationships should end. I use to say that two really good people can end up in a bad relationship if they are the wrong people for each other. This remains true. But also true, is that two really good people can end up in a wrong type of relationship and simply make it right by changing the form, not the love. I am so lucky to have loved this man. I cant imagine not having him in my life now. When you pick right, its right even if the form is wrong...so this time, my heart is broken but not empty...and the healing will be much easier this time than before...

Daywalker · 03-12-2010, 06:31 PM

You know, I gotta say that in the last 5 or 6 years the only heartbreak
I have had, has been from friends. I make amends when it feels right,
otherwise they pretty much lost the privilege to be
closer than arms length to me.

A Peace Pipe Helps.

Jet · 03-12-2010, 06:35 PM

I can remember be really in love and having her break it off. When you're that hurt, everything reminds you of them. Music, places, even cars. I saw her car everywhere it seemed, and I'd weave through traffic to catch up to see if it was her.

But the worst, is when I tried to find her in someone else. Ii even dated women that looked like her. Of course it never worked.

Gemme · 03-12-2010, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by softness

I recently broke off a LDR and he and I remain best of friends. There was no drama. We had always said, if we felt it wasnt going to work, we would part as friends. He treated me so well during the relationship, that when we came to realize this could not work (for private personal reasons) we both sanely and compassionately agreed to end the romance but keep the love. I still love him and always will...but as a best friend. I feel this is how relationships should end. I use to say that two really good people can end up in a bad relationship if they are the wrong people for each other. This remains true. But also true, is that two really good people can end up in a wrong type of relationship and simply make it right by changing the form, not the love. I am so lucky to have loved this man. I cant imagine not having him in my life now. When you pick right, its right even if the form is wrong...so this time, my heart is broken but not empty...and the healing will be much easier this time than before...

This is lovely.

cinderella · 03-12-2010, 07:12 PM

Sweetheart, I've been carrying this kind of torch since 1971...it saps your life, you can never be happy with anyone else no matter how hard you try. Believe me, I've been hanging on to this for 39 years...while that 'other' is living her life being happy with no thought for me. I guess the lesson is to move on, if you can. I'm the least qualified to give advice on this...but, we must move on if we can. I know I will carry this love and burdon to my death, but in the meantime, I must go on and live. You are one step ahead of me. I wish you well...

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Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

I can remember be really in love and having her break it off. When you're that hurt, everything reminds you of them. Music, places, even cars. I saw her car everywhere it seemed, and I'd weave through traffic to catch up to see if it was her.

But the worst, is when I tried to find her in someone else. Ii even dated women that looked like her. Of course it never worked.

Jet · 03-12-2010, 07:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cinderella

Sweetheart, I've been carrying this kind of torch since 1971...it saps your life, you can never be happy with anyone else no matter how hard you try. Believe me, I've been hanging on to this for 39 years...while that 'other' is living her life being happy with no thought for me. I guess the lesson is to move on, if you can. I'm the least qualified to give advice on this...but, we must move on if we can. I know I will carry this love and burdon to my death, but in the meantime, I must go on and live. You are one step ahead of me. I wish you well...

it was years ago. i just remember how it felt.

cinderella · 03-12-2010, 07:41 PM

Ditto...so do I.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

it was years ago. i just remember how it felt.

imadiva · 05-14-2010, 07:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jet

I can remember be really in love and having her break it off. When you're that hurt, everything reminds you of them. Music, places, even cars. I saw her car everywhere it seemed, and I'd weave through traffic to catch up to see if it was her.

But the worst, is when I tried to find her in someone else. Ii even dated women that looked like her. Of course it never worked.

I can relate to that .. That hurt was sooooo deep I thought I would never feel good again but then yay I'm BAAACK!!

chefhottie25 · 05-14-2010, 09:51 PM

I am still struggling with getting over my ex. We were happy together, understood one another, and shared amazing intimacy. I relapsed after being clean for 6 months...and she left me. Sometimes when she and her new girlfriend are fighting she calls me. Saying how she missed our relationship because we didn't fight. If she has been drinking...I get the I love you and you are the best sex I have ever had. She feels safe in her new relationship, and that is what she wants. Life with me wouldn't be easy...i am a recovering addict with schizophrenia. She doesn't have the capacity for who I am. I just still love her so much...and it is keeping me from persuing new relationships. I am just not ready to love again right now...but I am working on it.

03-12-2010, 06:27 PM	#2
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,908 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	maturity... I recently broke off a LDR and he and I remain best of friends. There was no drama. We had always said, if we felt it wasnt going to work, we would part as friends. He treated me so well during the relationship, that when we came to realize this could not work (for private personal reasons) we both sanely and compassionately agreed to end the romance but keep the love. I still love him and always will...but as a best friend. I feel this is how relationships should end. I use to say that two really good people can end up in a bad relationship if they are the wrong people for each other. This remains true. But also true, is that two really good people can end up in a wrong type of relationship and simply make it right by changing the form, not the love. I am so lucky to have loved this man. I cant imagine not having him in my life now. When you pick right, its right even if the form is wrong...so this time, my heart is broken but not empty...and the healing will be much easier this time than before... __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

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Daywalker Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Hippy Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: * Posts: 3,750 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,499 Thanked 11,916 Times in 2,700 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	You know, I gotta say that in the last 5 or 6 years the only heartbreak I have had, has been from friends. I make amends when it feels right, otherwise they pretty much lost the privilege to be closer than arms length to me. A Peace Pipe Helps. __________________ www.SirDaywalker.com

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Jet Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: .. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: .. Posts: 3,471 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 292 Thanked 2,647 Times in 1,293 Posts Rep Power: 0	This was years ago but... I can remember be really in love and having her break it off. When you're that hurt, everything reminds you of them. Music, places, even cars. I saw her car everywhere it seemed, and I'd weave through traffic to catch up to see if it was her. But the worst, is when I tried to find her in someone else. Ii even dated women that looked like her. Of course it never worked.

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03-12-2010, 05:40 PM	#1
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chefhottie25 Member How Do You Identify?: boi Preferred Pronoun?: hy Relationship Status: happily taken Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: ohio Posts: 1,406 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26 Thanked 889 Times in 478 Posts Rep Power: 1175217	I am still struggling with getting over my ex. We were happy together, understood one another, and shared amazing intimacy. I relapsed after being clean for 6 months...and she left me. Sometimes when she and her new girlfriend are fighting she calls me. Saying how she missed our relationship because we didn't fight. If she has been drinking...I get the I love you and you are the best sex I have ever had. She feels safe in her new relationship, and that is what she wants. Life with me wouldn't be easy...i am a recovering addict with schizophrenia. She doesn't have the capacity for who I am. I just still love her so much...and it is keeping me from persuing new relationships. I am just not ready to love again right now...but I am working on it.