Permission to propose

[Ciaran]

Originally Posted by Martina

I wish her old threads would go away, especially if they are going to inspire sexist humor, but even if not. It makes me think of all the people who invested TIME, and some even a certain amount of concern and affection, in a poser. It's so fraudulant when someone does that. It makes you feel robbed. Hell, people posted their wedding videos on this thread.

Understand that. However,

a) it is not closed (if a moderator wants to close it, they will do so). Until then, I / we have the right to comment.

b) after the initial trolling, there has been a very interesting and valuable discussion here about many aspects of marriage. There is significant focus on LGBT persons getting legal rights to marry but, IMO, insignificant focus on a multitude of marriage-related customs and expectations.

c) no one should feel their time is wasted. The community, and how we respond to threads, is not about the original poster. In fact, this thread reiterates that as real members of the community have had a rich discussion. It might have originated from a troll (and, yes, I wish it didn't) but it has not been all bad.

[Martina]

Originally Posted by Ciaran

Understand that. However,

a) it is not closed (if a moderator wants to close it, they will do so). Until then, I / we have the right to comment.

I am fully aware of that, Ciaran.

[Ciaran]

Originally Posted by Martina

I am fully aware of that, Ciaran.

I was assuming that to be the case i.e. the fact that you posted on what was one of "I wish her old threads would go away" threads.

However, I'm not making a cheap dig. Rather, just making the point that the thread remains open and, to that extent, it remains live and should be considered so.

There have been many threads here (and previous sites) that were reignited months / years after they appeared to die - the fact that the initial poster was a troll doesn't, IMO, matter as the discussion has become a real, bone fide one on its own merits.