Butch on the Outside Femme on the inside, and Vice Versa

[Sparkle]

Originally Posted by AnnRkey

Is this possible? You may ask yourself. And yes, I believe so. I live it everyday. My girlfriend doesn't use this site, but I randomly tell her about some of the postings. I was confused by the women identified lesbians living with other women identified lesbians. So I was telling her about it. If your male identified your straight? So I was like, use a straight site than? Right? Wrong?! We both were slightly confused, we are women..who like other women. Does that exist anymore? Or has it all come down to this complicated, fits inside the right box, your this label and I am that label. I mean don't get me wrong its all fine and dandy to feel like you belong to something or fit in somewhere. But I am confused, however it is fair to say the whole Butch Femme dynamic is something that is intriguing..indeed intriguing...none the less..is there still room for Girls like myself and my girlfriend who like other girls...No labels..No confusion about gender identity...just girls who like girls. I do like reading and chatting at this site however. It is very interesting, Like I mentioned previously the dynamics are intriguing...

Yes, of course there is room for you how ever you identify (inside or out), and whether your relationship looks like anyone else's.

I'd encourage you to keep reading threads on the site and educating yourself, you seem so have a lot of assumptions about other users here, their identities and the nature of their relationships. You will find members with whom you have differences in gender identity, sexual preferences or choice of partners and you will also find members with whom you share much in common AND we *all* have lives, feelings and relationships that are simultaneously simple and complex, just like you.

BUT you should know - most of us are not confused about our gender. And most of us in butch/femme relationships where one partner is male-identified do NOT identify as straight. Not all of us conform to strict gender IDs either.

You are welcome here and it would be lovely if you discovered that our community's beauty lies in its' diversity and our willingness to embrace all of it.