The Bucket List~ Things to do before you die

[Sachita]

Originally Posted by softness

even tho I dont drink alcohol at all, the house I am buying has a HUGE pergola filled with ancient grape vines that were used for decades to make wine...I think I need to make some wine! LOL

I too want to have an enormous garden...and am already designing the area I am inheriting with this new house. They had a huge garden, fenced in, and I will put my hands within it soon...

I want to see my daughter happy, and not so stressed with graduation, not so nervous about not being married yet, not so needy to have children yet...I want her to be in a job she loves, with a man she loves, with babies all around her that she will share with me...

I want someone to love the color of my hair, the softness of my body, the badness of my mischief, the warmth of my heart...and if not, then I wish to be on my own as I will not sacrifice the joy I feel about myself for the burden of someone else's misery they could transplant onto me...

I want to travel some...and even tho I have this spinal thing, it comes and goes and if I take care of myself, Iwill have the energy and ability to travel.

and take care of myself is #1....I want to die sober. I want to live happy joyous and free. I want to keep a healthy lifestyle and I want to glory in my ability to take care of myself...

I love wine. I understand how some people can't drink. Wine is magical. There's just something about it. I rarely drink anything else.

I have a few grape vines that just started producing. I think about putting in a lot more but then I battle with time and the truth is everything I do is just too much. I'm feeling a little tired and burnt out. Part of me wants to downsize into a tiny cottage, little garden and a few fruit trees. lol- but hell, I bought the 30 acres thinking, "I'll keep part, sell part and keep it simple." Next thing you know I was putting up buildings, greenhouse, chicken coops, small orchards and the like. I'm typical Taurus.

But the key Softness is finding the right partner who shares your dreams. I always said that I would marry the person I garden with.

[Soft*Silver]

Originally Posted by Sachita

IBut the key Softness is finding the right partner who shares your dreams. I always said that I would marry the person I garden with.

me too! I am so tired of being the one who is out there, sowing the seeds, transplanting, setting up the rows, watering, making fert soup, etc..etc..etc...while they think just cuz they rototilled they did their part! The real garden is in the journey to the harvest, not in the start of the soil! I think symbolically, and literally, I need someone who wants to do the active part of gardening so the harvest is truly "ours"

I also said i would marry the person who helped me have horses. I dont think I can anymore, but I do want someone who will try to fill that need somehow...

again, its part of that slow dance, that knows how to lead because they know where I will follow...

[Sachita]

Originally Posted by softness

me too! I am so tired of being the one who is out there, sowing the seeds, transplanting, setting up the rows, watering, making fert soup, etc..etc..etc...while they think just cuz they rototilled they did their part! The real garden is in the journey to the harvest, not in the start of the soil! I think symbolically, and literally, I need someone who wants to do the active part of gardening so the harvest is truly "ours"

I also said i would marry the person who helped me have horses. I dont think I can anymore, but I do want someone who will try to fill that need somehow...

again, its part of that slow dance, that knows how to lead because they know where I will follow...

exactly. don't settle. Someone has to really step up to the plate to impress me. I'm a strong and capable woman. I can run circles around most. I'm tired really and agree that its time for someone to lead... if only they can. I will not turn the reins over to just anyone. The truth is I just might end up alone. My expectations are pretty high.

But how about we make a silver haired femme pack/group... if we're alone we'll get together and garden with each other.

[Soft*Silver]

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But how about we make a silver haired femme pack/group... if we're alone we'll get together and garden with each other.[/QUOTE]


Sachita..I think we should do that anyway. We dont have to be each other's last plan. Let us become friends and garden together and share our lives along the way...I am no longer looking for a punctuation mark that says "aha! There is the end of what I was looking for!" No...my moments are Now. So...I did plant peas today! And after my medical tests are done tomorrow, I will go and get stuff I need to start my gourds and punkins...