The Little Things You Tell Yourself To Get You Through (A/The) Rough Spot

MarquisdeShey · 02-20-2013, 02:49 PM

"Tell me I can't and watch as I do."

StrongButch · 02-20-2013, 02:52 PM

I pull out a map and say fella where would you like to take pictures. Then I book a flight and book a room at a gay resort. Then I begin to sing I will survive! (lol)

maryam · 02-21-2013, 10:18 AM

I have two silly ones, but they work. I tell myself: "You're not a speshul snowflake. Snowflakes melt when the heat's on, and you're still here!"

And if that doesn't work, "You can't take your kitties if you go to jail, and there's no bubble baths there either."

Sometimes they help.

Rockinonahigh · 02-21-2013, 11:47 AM

many times I have just sat back,took a deep breath,then a long drink of a very cold coke...then said to myself.This will pass...think clearly...cary on coutiously.Most of the time it works,but when it dosent and I have tryed it all,I get my war shield on and prepare to do it the easyest hard way possable for me to come out in the best way possable.

WingsOnFire · 02-21-2013, 11:55 AM

Well there are things I tell myself and things I do...when my depression is bugging me I tell myself to get up from my desk and go sit in the sun. And then I do it.

When stress is overwhelming me I tell myself to breathe... Well actually Sir tells me to "breathe.... Breathe...." It so helps to just focus on His voice and breathe.

TheMerryFairy · 02-21-2013, 12:02 PM

I take a deep breath and remind myself that I am free. I might not have complete control over what happens but I can choose to be happy.

PearlsNLace · 02-22-2013, 03:19 PM

I am easily overwhelmed by the big, the complex and my imagination will turn hard things in to potentially horrible things when contemplating the potential effects what ever *this* current bad thing is.

So I break it down.

I first remind myself, rather quickly, of what is positive now- roof over head that is mostly functional? Check.
Me, my butch, and furbabies currently have food that will sustain us? Check.
for this moment, car is functioning? check

Ok. now one foot in front of the other- what do I need to do IN THIS MOMENT about the current situation?

and then I take it in moments by moments until I forget I am needing to put one foot in front of the other and I am just DOING it.

And then, somehow,

it gets better.

02-20-2013, 02:49 PM	#1
MarquisdeShey Member How Do You Identify?: bent Preferred Pronoun?: She/Her/They Relationship Status: Minding my own business. Join Date: Nov 2012 Location: I live here now Posts: 1,200 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 845 Thanked 4,727 Times in 921 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	"Tell me I can't and watch as I do." __________________ My manner of thinking, so you say, cannot be approved. Do you suppose I care? A poor fool is s/he who adopts a manner of thinking for others! ~Marquis de Sade

02-20-2013, 02:52 PM	#2
StrongButch Member How Do You Identify?: I see the world thru a lens Preferred Pronoun?: Yes Boss Relationship Status: Chillin out with awesome women Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: San Francisco Posts: 1,376 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,018 Thanked 4,183 Times in 1,180 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Things I pull out a map and say fella where would you like to take pictures. Then I book a flight and book a room at a gay resort. Then I begin to sing I will survive! (lol) __________________ Life is like music,so it can be played in many different styles.

02-21-2013, 11:55 AM	#5
WingsOnFire Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Queer..femme.. .babygirl...girl Preferred Pronoun?: Female Ones... Relationship Status: Enjoying life but ready to meet someone Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portland Oregon Posts: 3,945 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,015 Thanked 12,476 Times in 3,357 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Well there are things I tell myself and things I do...when my depression is bugging me I tell myself to get up from my desk and go sit in the sun. And then I do it. When stress is overwhelming me I tell myself to breathe... Well actually Sir tells me to "breathe.... Breathe...." It so helps to just focus on His voice and breathe. __________________ Previously known as MidnightBlueEyes ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ http://gailsforum.files.wordpress.co...-psd340941.png

02-22-2013, 03:19 PM	#7
PearlsNLace Member How Do You Identify?: queer Preferred Pronoun?: They/Them & her/she Relationship Status: Lucky, very lucky Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Portlandia, Oregon Posts: 427 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 875 Thanked 1,286 Times in 315 Posts Rep Power: 6505517	I am easily overwhelmed by the big, the complex and my imagination will turn hard things in to potentially horrible things when contemplating the potential effects what ever this current bad thing is. So I break it down. I first remind myself, rather quickly, of what is positive now- roof over head that is mostly functional? Check. Me, my butch, and furbabies currently have food that will sustain us? Check. for this moment, car is functioning? check Ok. now one foot in front of the other- what do I need to do IN THIS MOMENT about the current situation? and then I take it in moments by moments until I forget I am needing to put one foot in front of the other and I am just DOING it. And then, somehow, it gets better. __________________ YOU are Unique and Unrepeatable AND your not alone. thetrevorproject.org

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02-21-2013, 10:18 AM	#3
maryam Member How Do You Identify?: femme-ish Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: taken Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: somewhere, out there.... Posts: 263 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 675 Thanked 794 Times in 231 Posts Rep Power: 4979164	I have two silly ones, but they work. I tell myself: "You're not a speshul snowflake. Snowflakes melt when the heat's on, and you're still here!" And if that doesn't work, "You can't take your kitties if you go to jail, and there's no bubble baths there either." Sometimes they help.

02-21-2013, 11:47 AM	#4
Rockinonahigh Senior Member How Do You Identify?: stone butch Preferred Pronoun?: makes no diffrence,I know who I am. Relationship Status: single,maybe looking if the right person comes along. Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: shreveport,Louisiana Posts: 4,907 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,682 Thanked 14,933 Times in 3,938 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	many times I have just sat back,took a deep breath,then a long drink of a very cold coke...then said to myself.This will pass...think clearly...cary on coutiously.Most of the time it works,but when it dosent and I have tryed it all,I get my war shield on and prepare to do it the easyest hard way possable for me to come out in the best way possable.

02-21-2013, 12:02 PM	#6
TheMerryFairy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pansexual/Sapiosexual femmey dyke who likes to crossdress now and then Preferred Pronoun?: She/her OR ze if I'm crossdressing Relationship Status: Floating and walking My path, happy in life. Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: On my Merry Fairy way! , Canada Posts: 3,630 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,727 Thanked 8,694 Times in 2,987 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I take a deep breath and remind myself that I am free. I might not have complete control over what happens but I can choose to be happy.