Neurodiversity

[christie]

I hope you are all having a fabulous week. We will be hitting Nashville on Thursday afternoon.

My Aspie son is in what I am refer to as a meltdown. Its just not a good situation and I am finding that the older/more mature he becomes, the more rigid and resolute he is in his way of thinking/viewing a situation than ever before.

I don't know how much of this is just his growing up and how much of his inability to listen to other points of view is attributed to his wiring. (Or that it even matters which it is)

Please keep us in your thoughts as we try to navigate the situation and hope we make the best decision for him. Its already been a long week and its just Tuesday.

[violaine]

dear christie,

my thoughts are with you and your family, during this time of your son experiencing meltdown issues.

not a very amusing situation at all for anyone involved [aspie/family/friends], and i do hope the reason[s] for the upset resolves quickly.

best,
belle

[Apocalipstic]

Meltdown. I get that.

I think I am dancing on the edge of one myself.

I hope he and you feel way better way fast!

[violaine]

this happened to me today during a phone conversation;

i was wondering if any of you have ever been in the presence of someone who couldn't understand meaning of your words, and so their voice raised at you [question mark- my keyboard is acting strange].

that makes me upset, and i realise that i've been frustrated too, during conversations with nt's [caps not working either], whenever i must repeat myself multiple times. after a while, i am really worn out-

patience, even tone, and consistency work best for me.

belle

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by violaine

i was wondering if any of you have ever been in the presence of someone who couldn't understand meaning of your words, and so their voice raised at you [question mark- my keyboard is acting strange].

that makes me upset, and i realise that i've been frustrated too, during conversations with nt's [caps not working either], whenever i must repeat myself multiple times. after a while, i am really worn out-

patience, even tone, and consistency work best for me.

belle

Yes, yes and YES.

and yes I am so very worn out.

I hope everyone feels better! Hugs!

PS, and I hate it when people raise their voices for pretty much any reason.

[Andrew, Jr.]

Belle,

My answers are YES, YES, and YES. I am over-cooked now. At 46yo I am done. Society doesn't care, families are worn out, and there isn't too much help in terms of the medical community. Plus I have no faith in the medical community at all. Zero.

When people raise their voices to me like I am stupid, lazy, deaf, or whatever, it makes the situation worse. I am not deaf, lazy, or stupid. I have a delay in how I process verbal communication.

[christie]

Thank you all for the warm thoughts We really appreciate your support. Its been a very, very trying time and the manipulation techniques Bratboy is utilizing is just wearing us out.

I had a lil retail therapy tonight at BooksAMillion - I picked up this one:
[ame="http://www.amazon.com/Adolescents-Autism-Spectrum-Transition-ofTeenagers/dp/B000HT2P0C/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1269994432&sr=1-1"]Amazon.com: Adolescents on the Autism Spectrum: A Parent's Guide to the Cognitive, Social, Physical, and Transition Needs ofTeenagers with Autism Spectrum Disorders: Chantal Sicile-Kira, Temple Grandin: Books[/ame]

Have any of you read it?

[Kimbo]

A friend of mine and I were out to dinner last night and she said to me that she felt that something was different with her grand baby. She is not quite 2 years old. Some of the things that she mentioned made me wonder if she was somewhere in the autistic spectrum, she feels the same. Do any of you have a recommendation of books or resources that she could read up on especially about young children? The easiest read possible the better.