what NOT to do in a relationship.......

Enchantress · 03-22-2013, 01:18 PM

Never use sensitive issues, thoughts or ideas that have been shared in an intimate and trusting venue, against the sharer. It's awful, and will surely make one party feel emotionally unsafe. And, if that happens, all bets are off (the relationship too).

Novelafemme · 03-22-2013, 01:29 PM

Don't be a dick!

clay · 03-22-2013, 05:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Enchantress

Never use sensitive issues, thoughts or ideas that have been shared in an intimate and trusting venue, against the sharer. It's awful, and will surely make one party feel emotionally unsafe. And, if that happens, all bets are off (the relationship too).

Echoing your sentiments exactly!

StrongButch · 03-22-2013, 05:52 PM

1) blame someone for your behavior 2) assume 3)fail to listen to what they need 4) play the victim 5) get others involved 6) intentionally hurt them 7) try to get them angry

JAGG · 03-23-2013, 09:04 AM

Don't assume. Give the other person the opportunity to show you who they are.

Admin · 03-23-2013, 10:40 AM

Folks -

We are getting reports about some of the language being used in here. Can we please dispense with the "douchebags" and "dicks"?

Here is the thing about language on this website: Cursing is fine, but we need folks to be a lot more thoughtful about using gendered language.

This thread has HUGE potential to be used for negativity so folks need to be super careful about what they post. I dont want to see this thread shut down.

Thanks

dixie · 03-24-2013, 08:54 AM

Do not.....take them for granted or treat them as "less than".

Do not......miss an opportunity to tell them how you feel, or even give them a compliment or a positive affirmation.

Sweet Bliss · 03-24-2013, 10:10 PM

Remember to use your best manners... it shows respect to others...

to be helpful ... it shows a caring nature ...

to be forgiving... it shows you know how

to spend your time together.... together

03-22-2013, 01:18 PM	#1
Enchantress Senior Member How Do You Identify?: A complex confection. Preferred Pronoun?: Miss Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The land of milk and honey. Posts: 2,169 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 741 Thanked 3,420 Times in 1,200 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Because without trust, you've got nothing ... Never use sensitive issues, thoughts or ideas that have been shared in an intimate and trusting venue, against the sharer. It's awful, and will surely make one party feel emotionally unsafe. And, if that happens, all bets are off (the relationship too). Last edited by Enchantress; 03-22-2013 at 01:21 PM. Reason: If someone is brave enough to share something difficult, then shouldn't it be cherished?

03-22-2013, 05:52 PM	#4
StrongButch Member How Do You Identify?: I see the world thru a lens Preferred Pronoun?: Yes Boss Relationship Status: Chillin out with awesome women Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: San Francisco Posts: 1,376 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,018 Thanked 4,183 Times in 1,180 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Not 1) blame someone for your behavior 2) assume 3)fail to listen to what they need 4) play the victim 5) get others involved 6) intentionally hurt them 7) try to get them angry __________________ Life is like music,so it can be played in many different styles.

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03-22-2013, 01:29 PM	#2
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03-24-2013, 08:54 AM	#7
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