How romantic are you?

[KCBUTCH]

I would say I am not romantic- but passionate and sensual, direct...I can be romantic but I would not say I myself am...

[Bard]

I would say I am romantic however I should defer to my beautiful wife as to weather or not I am

[Bèsame*]

I made a small pan of brownies and cut a heart out of the middle and left it in the counter.

[ONLY]

You have to ask my girl if I am romantic or not but I do what I can to make sure she is happy and surprise her at times.

I will be seeing her in a couple of hours (she is flying in) and I always have flowers waiting in the bedroom for her. Today I bought carnations for our bedroom.....bunch of daisies all kinds of colours in the kitchen.....a rose for the bedroom along with a bottle of wine and 2 wine glasses ready for when we get home.....along with a card......
and some fruit and veggies cuz I know she like that

[justanolecowboy]

I’ve read this thread with some interest – how some think they are – others think they are not – based on - how they feel or react or things they do – romance is very much an individual thing...I think some people think they aren’t “romantic” because they don’t fit the “hallmark” version of what we’ve been told romance is - meaning if you show up for a special date with a dozen long stem roses – a box of “Whitman sampler” chocolates and a bottle of sparkling “whatever” (oh and let’s not forget the giant stuffed teddy bear with a big red heart on it) – you are romantic and if you don’t – you are not...

Me, personally – I don’t think “hallmark” has done “romance” any favors – there is nothing “romantic” about crowding in the local pharmacy around a card rack with 14 other guys – on the day of “any” land mark occasion – stepping on dropped envelopes – or not finding one at all – and then just “picking one” – because you are in a hurry – and simply scrawling – “love, ____” at the end of a pre-written verse – that 2,364 other women are reading at the same time your loved one might be – (but) – on the other hand – I realize that even the very act of evening “thinking” about buying a card – is “romantic” to some – so, again – it is an individual thing.

I think we fellas and ladies too – put too much pressure on ourselves and have self-debate about “if” we are being romantic – because some magazine has written a list of the “10 Most Romantic Things to do for your Lover” – and you read them – and say – oh, well wow – no, I’ve never actually taken my wife on a romantic cruise – renewed our wows on the white sandy beaches of “wherever” …(OK – you know I exaggerate on these things by now) – but seriously – I’ve been guilty of it – I “read” those things sometimes – we all do … and I’m scratching my head thinking – “yeah…I don’t do any of that” – but does that mean I’m not “romantic” – because the Editor at Romance Weekly says I’m not because I didn’t do “x y or z” – and seriously – how do you know your partner or loved one isn’t reading the same list on “girls night out” - and they are laughing because the list is usually so out of perspective with what most view everyday romance might even be.


Being romantic to me – isn’t some sweeping grand gesture once a year on a special occasion like a birthday/anniversary or the “biggie” Valentine’s day...not that I don’t like to do “special” things I do – but I don’t necessarily consider them “romantic” I guess.


To me? Romantic is part of the whole package of “romance” itself – it’s not a “once in a while kind of thing” – and if you love someone deeply – and unconditionally – I think “romance” is just part of that “love” – so what some consider ordinary perhaps is romantic to me…part of what makes (her) romantic to me – even if she doesn’t realize it – is who she is – the essence of who she is - how she conducts her everyday life and around other people – how she makes them feel – when I see how they react to her – and appreciate her words or kindness – and the fact that it isn’t even something she “thinks” about – she just does – because it is “part of her” –and I smile inside because she has such a grace and elegance about her and I’m so proud of who she is as a person - or to me it’s romantic that she knows I hate meatloaf and that I love Dutch Apple pie – that she always remembers to have lots of milk in the refrigerator – or that she no matter how busy her day might be - stops always at some point to give me that special smile – or text or phone call that makes me know in that moment – nothing or no one else was more important to her than me…now – (that) to me is romantic – but you don’t see that in a magazine or on a list or inside a hallmark card…I think there are those that can be “romantic” without actually truly “loving someone” – but for me – it is all tied in together – the flowers that I might give her as a “grand gesture” means nothing – if I don’t love her enough or pay attention enough to do the small things – like take out the garbage without being asked – or fix the door – or mow the grass without being reminded…yeah – it’s in the everyday.


But, now – you know– I ramble…lol! – These threads just get me to thinking about topics in general but the question was do I see myself as romantic. Do I like to think that I weave daily romance into the way that I simply love her the best way I know how every day? – yes.



Is that romantic – hopeless or otherwise? No – I don’t think so –

it just means - I.simply.love.her.

[Blade]

Yeah...well sometimes....ummm maybe. I guess it just depends on what a femme's expectations of romantic are.

[little_ms_sunshyne]

Romantic to a fault!

[Library_girl]

I would say that I'm very romantic....I like to give little surprise gifts, hide love notes, make candlelit dinners, grab Hym for spontaneous slow dances, things like that. But I would also say that Hy may be more romantic than I..... (lucky me!!!!)

[GraffitiBoi]

I am definitely on the romantic side.

The last kind of romantic thing I did was when I was leaving my gf's place one night I pretended that I forgot something in the bedroom. When I went there and made sure she didn't follow me I slipped a cute and sweet card with a handwritten note out of my hoodie pocket and left it on her pillow. She messaged me after she went to bed for the night to thank me for the wonderful evening and the card. She said it was really sweet of me and that I'm just really a romantic softie. She melts my heart.

[deb0670]

Candle light dinners with soft music playing, walks along the beach in the moonlight, holding hands while walking the mall or grocery store, singing that special song, writing love notes and poems just because, wearing His favorite perfume, sensual massages, slow dancing to only the music in your head.. etc etc.
yeah, i think i am a romantic..