"Traditional" Masculinity in Today's Society

Jess · 04-07-2010, 04:11 PM

I think for me the issue I have when considering "traditional" anything is exactly what tradition am I looking at? I consider myself Retrosexual, in that I seek the best from past observations of "male" and choose to exemplify those rather than the influences I see that were negative in those eras.

I like using handkerchiefs. I like opening the door for my wife. I prefer being well dressed over slovenly when in a public setting ( dinner, etc). I would probably frequent a barber shop over a uni-sex salon if I were FTM/ Man. I like my shoes shined and take pride in that.

Many of the things that I view as being a "man's man" are from my grandfather or great grandfather's generation and not my dad's. From him, I learned that it was ok for a man to be sensitive and playful. ( That's about it though, as he was pretty irresponsible).

As a butch woman "metrosexual" doesn't really work for me, as it appears too effeminate ( for me). Tough guy doesn't really work ( unless I am in scene), Dumb Dad ( read: Tool Time) doesn't always work as I am a bit too enlightened for that. So, traditional is vague for me.

I do enjoy the Butch-femme dynamic over any other that i have seen employed, as it just seems to fit for me. Now... defining Butch and Femme takes on a whole nother debate! LOL!

Thanks for the thread miss always

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04-07-2010, 04:11 PM	#35
Jess Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: decidedly indifferent Preferred Pronoun?: other Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Patrick Springs, VA Posts: 2,812 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,247 Thanked 5,700 Times in 1,682 Posts Rep Power: 0	I think for me the issue I have when considering "traditional" anything is exactly what tradition am I looking at? I consider myself Retrosexual, in that I seek the best from past observations of "male" and choose to exemplify those rather than the influences I see that were negative in those eras. I like using handkerchiefs. I like opening the door for my wife. I prefer being well dressed over slovenly when in a public setting ( dinner, etc). I would probably frequent a barber shop over a uni-sex salon if I were FTM/ Man. I like my shoes shined and take pride in that. Many of the things that I view as being a "man's man" are from my grandfather or great grandfather's generation and not my dad's. From him, I learned that it was ok for a man to be sensitive and playful. ( That's about it though, as he was pretty irresponsible). As a butch woman "metrosexual" doesn't really work for me, as it appears too effeminate ( for me). Tough guy doesn't really work ( unless I am in scene), Dumb Dad ( read: Tool Time) doesn't always work as I am a bit too enlightened for that. So, traditional is vague for me. I do enjoy the Butch-femme dynamic over any other that i have seen employed, as it just seems to fit for me. Now... defining Butch and Femme takes on a whole nother debate! LOL! Thanks for the thread miss always