Would Like To Meet... a thread for your personal ad

[Ciaran]

Originally Posted by snowinghawk

If you don't fit the description of what I am looking for it's probably better to just pass.

Well, the good news for you and me is that I think I do fit the description - in that I'm white with dark hair (I did have copper highlights in my early twenties - hope that is okay?) and I'm possibly in the femme camp as you've kindly referred to me as one of "ladies" in post # 457.

Alas, I'm not within a short distance of Columbus, OH ..... otherwise, we'd likely be making love with each other in the kitchen just now.

Originally Posted by Sweet Bliss

It may not be PC or even polite, but not everyone needs to be. I have preferences also. It is important to me to be able to understand not only how someone likes their coffee in the morning , but whether we are compatible culturally. It relates to our race, our socioeconomic status, our religious education and beliefs, our education levels, whether we were bottle or breast fed.

There are probably on average 1,000 different variables on what attracts us to a potential lover, for lack of a crystal ball, we start with what we are most familiar. The face we see in the morning while we brush our teeth.

We may fall in love with an exotic face down the road, but until we are in a more comfortable space with the unknown, we will continue to go with the familiar.

PC or not. Like it or not. Very few of us grow up in a cosmopolitan, egalitarian home. Very few of us grow up eating cuisine from around the world. It's a miracle we can find a lover who sticks it out after the honeymoon. Let alone after the "you didn't replace the toilet paper" incident.

I'm not sure that's true - well, I cannot speak generally but certainly from my perspective. I am culturally insular and far from PC - I will continue to be so. I grew up in an almost 100% monocultural, white British-Irish environment and, whilst I now live in a large cosmopolitan city, it's that monocultural environment that I yearn for and will always be home.


However, for me in terms of relationships, differences often attract. Doesn't necessarily mean a polar opposite but, certainly, I would run a mile (actually, more like a marathon) if I ever stumbled upon some sort of femme equivalent of me who had similar background, status, religion etc.