Ask a trans person!

DapperButch · 09-09-2013, 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by psykbutch

"For example, I recently bought a swimsuit for the first time since I transitioned. I tried it out this past weekend, at the park pool. Unfortunately, I stayed too long at the pool and managed to obtain a sunburn (not too severe, fortunately). This suit happened to be a one piece swimsuit.

When I went to put on my bra, yesterday, I encountered one of those tiny little details, I'm afraid. As I'm sure that many of you know, it is absolutely NO fun to wear a bra over a sunburn. :P

Don't worry overmuch about the muting of emotions yet. First, hie thee to a gender therapist to help you sort things out. This will help you gain the information that you seem to need, right now. Then you can begin to make any decisions that are needed."

lol on the sunburn, very true. And yeah I wish I would stop stressing myself sleepless over stuff that is 50 steps ahead of myself right now. I looked up the wpath site, but only listed therapists are all the way out in tampa and places far like that, none close to cocoa. I'm hoping my regular therapist will be able to help me through some of it, at least a good vent.

thanks,
-psykbutch

Hey, psykbutch.

I would suggest contacting the WPATH therapists you found in FL. Ask them if they know of anyone in your area who has worked with transgender people. There are therapists out there who have experience, but don't specialize in gender therapy. The WPATH members may know about them.

Venting to your current therapist is good, but if you were to begin to really consider transitioning, I would strongly suggest seeing a gender therapist if at all possible. I have had/have clients who travel over 2 hours to see me because there is no one in their current area and they went as far as they could (their process), with their current therapist.

Good luck.

Nadeest · 09-09-2013, 05:02 PM

It takes time, psykbush. You are just at the very start of your transition, IF you choose to transition; although it sounds as if you are going to do so. This is NOT an instant or overnight process. Hormones do not magically change your body overnight, nor do you adjust to living as a male ( or female) overnight. It takes even longer for people that knew you as one gender, to begin to see you as another gender. This is a case where the safest thing to do is to take baby steps.

WPATH is not the only source of resources out there, to find a gender therapist, although they can certainly help find you a qualified one. You can also check http://www.drbecky.com/therapists.html , Susan's Place, PFLAG, and your local GLBT center.

Trust me, everyone who has transitioned, at least as an adult, has had to deal with people not recognizing us or accepting us, as our proper gender.

Not everyone knows, since birth, that they are a different gender, then what their bodies are. I didn't start figuring things out until I was in my 40's, although some people that were in my life had noticed that there was something about me, that was different from others.

It might be helpful for you to find a support group in your area. Also, feel free to contact me privately, if you wish to do so. I don't have all the answers, by any means, but I will endeavor to help you find them.

DapperButch · 09-09-2013, 05:09 PM

Nadeest, I didn't even think of other lists besides WPATH...duh!

http://www.thetransitionalmale.com/Therapists.html

http://www.lauras-playground.com/gender_therapists.htm

Nadeest · 09-09-2013, 05:27 PM

DrBeckysList has a lot of useful information and links in it, in addition to the lists of therapists, just so y'all know. I really like some of her articles that are linked there.

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Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077998	It takes time, psykbush. You are just at the very start of your transition, IF you choose to transition; although it sounds as if you are going to do so. This is NOT an instant or overnight process. Hormones do not magically change your body overnight, nor do you adjust to living as a male ( or female) overnight. It takes even longer for people that knew you as one gender, to begin to see you as another gender. This is a case where the safest thing to do is to take baby steps. WPATH is not the only source of resources out there, to find a gender therapist, although they can certainly help find you a qualified one. You can also check http://www.drbecky.com/therapists.html , Susan's Place, PFLAG, and your local GLBT center. Trust me, everyone who has transitioned, at least as an adult, has had to deal with people not recognizing us or accepting us, as our proper gender. Not everyone knows, since birth, that they are a different gender, then what their bodies are. I didn't start figuring things out until I was in my 40's, although some people that were in my life had noticed that there was something about me, that was different from others. It might be helpful for you to find a support group in your area. Also, feel free to contact me privately, if you wish to do so. I don't have all the answers, by any means, but I will endeavor to help you find them.

09-09-2013, 05:27 PM	#4
Nadeest Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leesburg, FL Posts: 595 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,876 Thanked 2,118 Times in 501 Posts Rep Power: 17077998	DrBeckysList has a lot of useful information and links in it, in addition to the lists of therapists, just so y'all know. I really like some of her articles that are linked there.