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Originally Posted by las68

I'm having a difficult time with this breakup. Dating and meeting people at 42 isn't as easy as it was 20yrs ago. I was alone for 3 yrs before we met and I thought I would never find love again. I was 40 then. I'm afraid of being alone for the rest of my time on this earth. I'm trying to keep busy and keep my mind off things, but I can't. It seems everyone has found that someone and no one has time share. I really don't know why I'm posting this other than I needed to get it off my chest

Awww...it's going to be ok. You will not be alone. You are not alone. Sometimes it just feels that way. That fear can keep us in (or cause us to chose) relationships that aren't good for us. There needs to be time in between relationships to get your shit together. I am usually upset at first after a break up and then one day it dawns on me that I'm single and suddenly I'm happy about it. lol. There are good things about it. I like my space, my stuff, doing what I want to do and no one eating just the cookie parts off the fucking oreo's! (God that was annoying!)

Anyway, join a gym. Hang out with friends. Volunteer. Play softball for a queer team....you will meet new people and the next relationship will come along when the time is right. If you don't take time though in between you run the risk of bringing dead weight into any new relationship.