What attracts you to Ftms ......

[1ladyface]

My guy is the cowboy archetype and I'm the absent-minded professor archetype.

He is a:
street smart
action oriented
stone and somewhat stoic
fiercely loyal
protective
physically skilled
risk taker

I am a:
book smart
quiet
quirky
head-in-the-clouds, lost-in-thought
creative
empath
who enjoys doing things slowly and deliberately

We balance each other really well. He spurs me to action when I might otherwise overthink and become immobilized. And I remind him to slow down and breath. He's calm in a crisis and I have ALL the feelings. But on the rare occasion that he has feelings that he needs to deal with he knows I'm a safe, non-judgemental person to come to. We both work with our hands and love to make things but as a chef his creative process is loud, fast-paced, improvisational and often collaborative. As a seamstress my creative process is a quiet, slow, deliberate, cerebral and solitary.

I wouldn’t be good at his life and he wouldn’t be good at mine but we have shared values that manifest in very different ways in accordance with our temperaments and I think that’s why we work so well. We understand each others values and motivations but since our shared values have very different outlets there’s an amount of space built-in to our relationship that allows for some breathing room and individuality. It also allows us to admire each other from a distance.

His gorilla hands and my bunny heart make an excellent team.