The Booty Call.

imperfect_cupcake · 10-19-2013, 01:25 PM

and yes, etiquette dictates for booty call, that if she call you and asked you to come over in a cab, she should have paid the fair home.

PoeticSilence · 10-19-2013, 03:38 PM

When I was younger, I had my fair share of booty calls, and yeah, it was very acceptable and maybe even expected that single people participated in them. It wasn't any big secret, and sometimes we'd find out a few of us were all "seeing" the same person, and I don't remember there being any jealousy or bad feelings about it. I remember getting into a relationship that lasted seven years and when it ended, I looked up one of my old "friends with benefits" and spent the night with her. It was like those seven years didn't happen.

I don't know the situation, maybe it's an ex, and those can be awkward, but I still see them as doable. Just make sure you communicate.

imperfect_cupcake · 10-19-2013, 03:49 PM

oof, recent exes... yeah. I wouldn't advise booty calls with them. I've wound up in very bad positions because of that.

Old exes? sure, why not. it's propper over and if there's still some physical attraction, you know it won't get complicated.

And some of my longest and closest long term relationships started with casual sex.

free-to-be · 10-24-2013, 12:33 PM

And a booty call should STAY a booty call. Honestly is definitely the best policy!

Wrang1er · 10-24-2013, 02:23 PM

Is there a booty call list?

DapperButch · 10-24-2013, 03:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Wrang1er

Is there a booty call list?

Yes. See cara for the list. For some reason she put herself on there 3 times. I am not sure what that is about.

cara · 10-24-2013, 03:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DapperButch

Yes. See cara for the list. For some reason she put herself on there 3 times. I am not sure what that is about.

LOL!

girllikeu2 · 10-24-2013, 06:15 PM

I am an absolute prude but (having had a booty call many years ago ... as in 12 plus) I feel like booty calls are just a reason to fill in something you are personally lacking (good sex, love, self esteem etc) and if you are in an LTR of any kind, legal or not you owe it to your partner to break it off long before a booty call happens unless a poly amory situation has been hammered out in ADVANCE). If yer single and free to mingle then knock your damn socks off.

Just my somewhat bitter 2 cents.

Nat · 10-24-2013, 06:57 PM

Heh I just naturally assumed this thread was not about cheating.

JAGG · 10-24-2013, 07:05 PM

When I was in my early 20's I was a Marine and traveled all the time,I was either just back from a deployment, getting ready to be deployed , or deployed somewhere, so I never wanted anything long term. If I was attracted to someone and she wanted to have some fun that was all I wanted. And it worked out great for me, and it was a very wise thing to do in hindsight. That way when I deployed I was free to do as I wanted. And no one was longing for me to get back to them, and I was able to live in the moment and not be wishing my lover was there etc. So basically every one was a booty call to me.
When I got out I moved to Tulsa AKA femmelessville USA and thought I would settle down find a good femme and get married maybe start a family, like my twin did and all my other siblings. My twin has been with the same femme for 24 yrs.
I however am not so lucky in love so to speak. The dream of getting married and having a family etc is fading . The family thing I gave up on that years ago. But I still held out hope of finding someone to spend my life with. But here lately I'm thinking maybe I should rethink all that. It's been nothing but one dead end disappoint after another. Plus I look at some people and the "partnerships" they are in and they are soooo unhappy and tied to the ball and chain, they are just miserable. Or this one is cheating on that one, or this one is abusive to that one etc. Sometimes I think I don't want any part of that, and I am better off and maybe I am really lucky that I have been alone all these years. Watching someone devote 19 yrs to someone else only to have them run off with another and leave them broke and broken. Nothing to show for 19 yrs except a broken heart. I know some people have been together a long time and don't cheat and are not abusive , but are they really happy? If they were deeply honest with themselves are they really truely happy , as happy as I am? I don't know.
Maybe I don't know what I want anymore. But I have really been thinking more and more that maybe I should go back to my old way of dating. Reading this booty call thread, really makes me think maybe that is the way to go for me. I don't know.

10-19-2013, 03:38 PM	#2
PoeticSilence Member How Do You Identify?: dodges labels Relationship Status: Estranged Join Date: Jul 2013 Location: Midwest Posts: 454 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3 Thanked 919 Times in 277 Posts Rep Power: 10661585	When I was younger, I had my fair share of booty calls, and yeah, it was very acceptable and maybe even expected that single people participated in them. It wasn't any big secret, and sometimes we'd find out a few of us were all "seeing" the same person, and I don't remember there being any jealousy or bad feelings about it. I remember getting into a relationship that lasted seven years and when it ended, I looked up one of my old "friends with benefits" and spent the night with her. It was like those seven years didn't happen. I don't know the situation, maybe it's an ex, and those can be awkward, but I still see them as doable. Just make sure you communicate. __________________ Love is all you need.

10-24-2013, 06:57 PM	#9
Nat Senior Member How Do You Identify?: bigender (DID System) Preferred Pronoun?: he/him or alter-specific Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Central TX Posts: 3,537 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,047 Thanked 13,971 Times in 2,591 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Heh I just naturally assumed this thread was not about cheating. __________________ I'm a fountain of blood. In the shape of a girl. - Bjork What is to give light must endure burning. -Viktor Frankl

10-24-2013, 07:05 PM	#10
JAGG Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: JAGG Relationship Status: =) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tulsa (cat free zone) Posts: 6,093 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,651 Thanked 17,531 Times in 4,137 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	When I was in my early 20's I was a Marine and traveled all the time,I was either just back from a deployment, getting ready to be deployed , or deployed somewhere, so I never wanted anything long term. If I was attracted to someone and she wanted to have some fun that was all I wanted. And it worked out great for me, and it was a very wise thing to do in hindsight. That way when I deployed I was free to do as I wanted. And no one was longing for me to get back to them, and I was able to live in the moment and not be wishing my lover was there etc. So basically every one was a booty call to me. When I got out I moved to Tulsa AKA femmelessville USA and thought I would settle down find a good femme and get married maybe start a family, like my twin did and all my other siblings. My twin has been with the same femme for 24 yrs. I however am not so lucky in love so to speak. The dream of getting married and having a family etc is fading . The family thing I gave up on that years ago. But I still held out hope of finding someone to spend my life with. But here lately I'm thinking maybe I should rethink all that. It's been nothing but one dead end disappoint after another. Plus I look at some people and the "partnerships" they are in and they are soooo unhappy and tied to the ball and chain, they are just miserable. Or this one is cheating on that one, or this one is abusive to that one etc. Sometimes I think I don't want any part of that, and I am better off and maybe I am really lucky that I have been alone all these years. Watching someone devote 19 yrs to someone else only to have them run off with another and leave them broke and broken. Nothing to show for 19 yrs except a broken heart. I know some people have been together a long time and don't cheat and are not abusive , but are they really happy? If they were deeply honest with themselves are they really truely happy , as happy as I am? I don't know. Maybe I don't know what I want anymore. But I have really been thinking more and more that maybe I should go back to my old way of dating. Reading this booty call thread, really makes me think maybe that is the way to go for me. I don't know. __________________ I don't want to spend my life with someone I can live with, I want to spend my life with someone I can't live without.

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10-19-2013, 01:25 PM	#1
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,710 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	and yes, etiquette dictates for booty call, that if she call you and asked you to come over in a cab, she should have paid the fair home.

10-19-2013, 03:49 PM	#3
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,710 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	oof, recent exes... yeah. I wouldn't advise booty calls with them. I've wound up in very bad positions because of that. Old exes? sure, why not. it's propper over and if there's still some physical attraction, you know it won't get complicated. And some of my longest and closest long term relationships started with casual sex.

10-24-2013, 12:33 PM	#4
free-to-be Junior Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: depends on the day..... Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: suburbia Posts: 19 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 28 Thanked 31 Times in 14 Posts Rep Power: 22374	And a booty call should STAY a booty call. Honestly is definitely the best policy!

10-24-2013, 02:23 PM	#5
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10-24-2013, 06:15 PM	#8
girllikeu2 Member How Do You Identify?: Dingbat Relationship Status: Facebook Official Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: *** Posts: 699 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 720 Thanked 1,099 Times in 288 Posts Rep Power**: 15433228	I am an absolute prude but (having had a booty call many years ago ... as in 12 plus) I feel like booty calls are just a reason to fill in something you are personally lacking (good sex, love, self esteem etc) and if you are in an LTR of any kind, legal or not you owe it to your partner to break it off long before a booty call happens unless a poly amory situation has been hammered out in ADVANCE). If yer single and free to mingle then knock your damn socks off. Just my somewhat bitter 2 cents.