Friendship Circles: Gender Differences in How We Do It?

[Just_G]

My closest friendships are with femmes.....the first person I call or text when something happens in my life is PinkieLee! Not my girlfriend (when I am dating), not my drinking buddies; I call my favorite femme. I also call my other favorite femmes from time to time to catch up and let them know they are on my mind; sometimes just to hear their voices and have some gab time.

My femme friends are the cool side of the pillow! You know, when you flip the pillow over and lay on the cool side and it is comfortable and just what you need and you relax and think "ahhhhh". There is something so comforting in knowing I have such wonderful friendships with femmes. I can really talk to a handful of them about pretty much everything.

I have a couple of friendships with butches that I hold so close to my heart, but we never talk. We might text once in a while, but the talking thing is rare. Another one close to me is Durrrrrrrr, and we talk every so often, and I love that we do that!

I have never planned out that I would be closer to femmes than butches or transguys; it just happened. It's not even that we are closer, it's that we communicate more in the grand scheme of things. It's the same way with straight women I hang out with.

Funny story; I went with a friend to a bonfire. When I was introduced to the woman throwing the party, I was pleasantly surprised to meet a femme. We got along great and have even met for dinner once since that night. We text every so often too. I am so excited to have femme energy so close to home...that is very refreshing to me. I didn't think of her in a romantic way from the get go, as I was just thrilled to meet a femme locally. I told her over that dinner that I was grateful for her femme energy and that I looked forward to becoming friends. She laughed and said that nobody had ever thanked her for being femme.