Changing last names

[Ginger]

Originally Posted by MsTinkerbelly

I do not see butches changing names as often as femmes changing names...most butches probably would laugh at you or be highly offended were you to suggest it. It is "normal" in our culture for women to take the males names, and in our efforts for acceptance in this society we "ape" what we see and are brought up living (most of us) in our own homes. Most see butches as the "male" partner, right or wrong, good or bad...and if i'm honest i do defer to Kasey in many things.

You know that commercial "we've come a long way baby"? Maybe not so much.

So are you saying that's a good thing or a bad thing? Are you proud and happy that it's that way? Or just okay with it? Or not so happy, maybe resigned to it, because "that's the way it's always been," which seems to be your point?

To "ape" something has negative connotations, so that's why I'm asking.