Femmes Who Strap <3

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I've never strapped, and the thought has never been one to make its way into my mind. There is no "ew" factor in the least, but it is never something I thought about.

My first girlfriend and I never used any toys - honestly, I am not sure I even KNEW about them at that age. Same went for my second girlfriend. It actually wasn't until I dated my last boyfriend that I even OWNED any toys. So, I came out fully, met a girl, and she actually shamed me for liking penetration period. We're just talking basic, slim, not-cock-realistic $10 vibrator here. I was informed that I was NOT a lesbian if I liked penetration. Well, okie-dokie, toys went into the trash and we parted ways. After that, I have only been partnered with stone partners (I feel the need to comment that it's just happened that way, it's not like I told myself "Okay, no more giving sex, just taking it!")

So, I have only been on the receiving ends of strap-on's. Sometimes it's the last thing I want, sometimes it's the one thing I want (and a lot of dirty words and hair-pulling, but I regress..). If my partner ever requested it, it is something I would be more than willing to try. In the mean time, it will just be one of those area's I've not yet explored, but by no means would I ever shame or make anyone feel lesser.

I personally would not cross someone off my list for strapping/NOT strapping/wanting ME to strap.

Just my .02

[Soft*Silver]

I have been scolded as a femme for liking my cock. Even to the tune of saying I am transitioning into a butch. The hell I am! I am a femme, no matter what I do or who I am with or how I look. For a brief second I actually considered this was true and then shook it off me like a cold rain.

I remember Kobi commenting on some of my posts about strapping and she was so encouraging. I have to thank you for that, Kobi. It made a huge difference in my psyche. I knew I was enjoying it and didnt really give a damn what others felt but it sure felt good when a butch said WOWSA! in a positive way.

The thing I battle, is that my mate is a male and no one and I mean no one wants to hear that hetero male (in their eyes..which is so fucking far from who he is) enjoys being fucked. Its even better that it would be between two men, than a woman fucking a man.

[*Anya*]

Originally Posted by Miss_Tia

The thing I battle, is that my mate is a male and no one and I mean no one wants to hear that hetero male (in their eyes..which is so fucking far from who he is) enjoys being fucked. Its even better that it would be between two men, than a woman fucking a man.

Actually, there are many hetero men that like, enjoy and desire anal sex.

There is even a word for it: pegging.

Per the Urban Dictionary:

"Pegging
When the tables are voluntarily turned on heterosexual anal intercourse and the female servicee becomes the servicer for the man. Because most women don't have penises, a strap-on dildo is necessary."

I think we need, in general, to stop policing how each of us has sex!

Why do we judge each other? Why are we not allowed to enjoy sex in the manner and in the way that best works for us?

I know that I have been guilty of it myself and reading everyone's posts has never made me more aware of it before.

If I am judging you; I am judging myself.

I am going to work on that.

[LilyTheCat]

Done it but would absolutely LOVE to try!

[Runner]

The uber confidence my ex got from strapping were the hottest experiences I've had.

For me sex is the ultimate platform for self expression and if it feels good who cares about whether or not it fits neatly into a particular ID "box".

I genuinely feel that people who judge others on how they live their (sex) lives may be better served by taking a look at their own.

[MacMastr00]

As a Butch I enjoy the female form...the tenderness...soft curves..perfumed skin..even more so during intimacy...
But I also enjoy the strength of a woman her intelligence...sense of humour and tenacity just to name a few...
That being said...if I was to be in another relationship again...and she suggested her interest in strapping...I would not head for the hills..as I want My partner to know that I support her...and that it is not all about Me

[Soft*Silver]

I have heard of the term Pegging...but like Fisting, not everyone has heard of it. And when I have even subtly indicated our preference to a few other friends and acquaintances, wide eyes happened. Man could we see the judgement. He frankly could give a shit what they think. LOL. He is pretty strong in his sense of Self. I am just stunned by it, because well, its new to me and I wasnt expecting judgement. I dunno, I expected a more congratulatory response..lol...so naive am I!

[Just_G]

NOW we're talkin'!!

For years I thought about it, but the women I dated were not into showing any type of interest in femme cock, and I knew better than to ask. I also feared that my "butchness" would come into question if I asked. (I definitely know better now and don't give a shit what people think about me!)

I think it is awesome how many femmes are in here discussing this! I am not so much into the disecting of "why" people like it or don't like it...just putting it out there that as a total switch, I dig it.

Carry on....

[Miss_J]

For me it has always been about the energy created with a lover. If I'm there and open to exploring with you than why not do what makes us both have an incredible experience. I enjoy it and have truly been very excited by it with a couple of partners but its not something I miss if its not there.

There was a point in my life where I would'nt have even considered it because I felt that it would make me seem less femme. I was young and inexperienced with a very small world of comparison. I am damn happy I did not remain so narrow in my views or was unwilling to explore, as I am much more confidant in me now.

Thank you to all for sharing!

[TruTexan]

Originally Posted by Just_G

NOW we're talkin'!!

For years I thought about it, but the women I dated were not into showing any type of interest in femme cock, and I knew better than to ask. I also feared that my "butchness" would come into question if I asked. (I definitely know better now and don't give a shit what people think about me!)

I think it is awesome how many femmes are in here discussing this! I am not so much into the disecting of "why" people like it or don't like it...just putting it out there that as a total switch, I dig it.

Carry on....

WOOT WOOT !! I second that opinion, although I've not had the opportunity YET to be strapped by a femme, I have however used double head or they have hand held one using it on me. Man that's HAWT HAWT !! WOOOT WOOOT !! And I hear you G, about your butchness comment. Mine was attacked once by a gf because I asked for her to fuck me with one hand held. Needless to say.............I stopped seeing her end of story. I won't have my butchness attacked or criticized by ANYONE I'm dating or partnered with...PERIOD.

[imperfect_cupcake]

I actually never heard it called pegging.
I was with quite a few men (and "straight girls") before I discovered butches, had a lot of casual sex. And only one out of X didn't like being fucked. I had my strap on Loooooooooong before I was a dyke.
Bend Over Boyfriend series came out a couple of years after I went nancy pants.





I do recall getting irritated with the women's sex shops exploding into "how to fuck your man" kits when I was just getting into butches.

But my two favourite dils to use came from here:
Divine Interventions

I have used Jackhammer Jesus (<3 loved that one) and really enjoyed using that...
And if I did strap I would prefer to use the Diving Nun.

[dixie]

Love love love it. From the minute I strap up I take on an attitude that I can't quite control. It comes from within...changes the way I feel, gives me a fierceness and an aura of confidence that I sometimes don't have otherwise (in certain sexual situations). I enjoy it immensely. Not to mention the fact that I find the act so freakin hot I can get off just on strapping my butch (or other femme, or whoever is in the mood for it lol).

[~baby~doll~]

i have done it when told too, but strapping and having a cock between my legs has never been my favorite thing. Now when my Femme lover straps well this is altogether different. i find in sexy and lusty. woo woo ride me cowgirl.

For me not so much but for Her any time She gets her femme cock on i am ready.

[AnnRkey]

I am not one to label myself butch or femme. But as Lady Snow mentioned, I love sex, period. I read the poll on the site and thought to myself well I wish I could find femmes like that! I see no reason to restrict sex to certain acts. How boring. I want a partner that is comfortable enough to be everything and anything when it comes to sex.

[Licious]

I've never really wanted to do it. I do not say ew. I say, femmes strapping is hot! And I'm enjoying reading the posts. The femme spectrum is a wonderful and varied thing!

[Asari]

I'd like to try it out, but there is no one willing to volunteer.

[Toughy]

A question or two.

Are we talking hard strap on for fucking or soft pack for going out or both?

I've known Femmes who do all three....although for some reason my experience trends toward hard packing for both going out and at home.

How many Femmes pack for going out? Back in the day when I would occasionally bottom to a High Femme Top/Domme it was an almost guaranteed Goddess help me please, weak in the knees, trying not to fall down, experience when I hugged her and leaned into that, oh so incongruous hard pack, under those garters and stockings and shoes............anyway...

Femmes: hard pack soft pack? going out or staying home?

(waving hi to all)

[candy_coated_bitch]

I have packed hard in the past, both at home and for going out. I LOVE going out and having that (seemingly) incongruous raging hard on under my skirt along with all my other Femme accoutrement. I also pack hard at home as a surprise for my lover. That *discovery* either when at home or while out is the HOTTEST. THING. EVER.

I've never had a soft pack, but I have thought about getting one. I am interested in playing around with that more to wrap my own mind around some gender stuff I feel as a Femme with a cock.

That's my short answer for now.

[ProfPacker]

I soft pack and find it very hot. It is also good for exploring my gender feelings about what is butch and femme. Since I have just come "back into the world" after a very long relationship I was not aware of The Crash Pad Series where I am getting to enjoy my fantasies that were not explored in my youth. Lots of femmes who pack... butch cock..and ftm makes my desire to pack as a femme greater,

[Erryl]

The wife and I have been together about 15 years so that's relevant to my response.

Over the years we have gone through a variety of sexual phases and oh so so many toys y'all!!
There toward the beginning it was a struggle to even have a vibe! Poor wife was kinda shy in the feisty sex department. Once she starting opening up to toys it got interesting. I was the only one who would strap it on, my slightly butch wifey just felt like she .. idk.. wasn't supposed to even like it let alone put it on. Once she got over the feelings that liking it somehow made her less gay, she starting getting more into trying it both ways. Now, many years later, it's hard to get that thing away from her! If it's out of the drawer she's got a firm grip on it. lol! Stingy broad.