Too much honesty?

[dark_crystal]

I will lie my ass off about things like haircut, hair color, tattoos, outfit (once we have left the house), large purchases (house/car), etc

for the simple reason that the thing is usually already done before my opinion is sought

If someone has just cut their waist-length hair completely off, there is no way in hell I would say anything at all that isn't "OMG OMG YOU LOOK INCREDIBLE WOW"

Not even "i liked it better before"

And that brings me to my main criteria for honesty, which is "will it be productive?"

If my honesty will help the person or the situation, I am honest

If it will do more harm than good, I will, as I said, happily lie my ass off

[dark_crystal]

I will also lie my ass off to people whose reactions tend to be extreme:

If you are a person who hits the roof if you feel like someone is questioning you, you do not get my honesty

If you are a person who will drag everyone through a two-hour guilt and recrimination session after the slightest hint of criticism, you don't get my honesty

If you are a person who has to win every argument no matter how long it takes, then yes, i will dishonestly apologize for something I don't really believe is my fault just to shut you up

However, if you are any of these three people, we are not going to be dating so a lot of this won't come up

[dark_crystal]

OH!

Also I will lie my ass off to people I don't know very well, for example

Husband of a friend of a friend: "kids today have no work ethic, don't you agree?"
Me: "sure"

[dark_crystal]

<--------- is, apparently, a big fat liar