What do YOU need to feel loved? - Page 3

MitchM42 · 08-18-2016, 12:50 PM

There is quiz you can take online that will tell you what you #1 and #2 languages are out of five. It was interesting, because my wife and I took and realized that we not only do NOT need the same things....but we also didn't "talk" in the language the other needed. I am a touch language and she is an act of service.

homoe · 08-18-2016, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by MitchM42

There is quiz you can take online that will tell you what you #1 and #2 languages are out of five. It was interesting, because my wife and I took and realized that we not only do NOT need the same things....but we also didn't "talk" in the language the other needed. I am a touch language and she is an act of service.

Yes, and a book as well The Five Love Languages written by Gary D. Chapman. I just re-read it last year and even tho it's aimed at straight people, I've found it very helpful.

JDeere · 08-26-2016, 04:50 PM

To feel appreciated, to be shown appreciation.

Orema · 08-26-2016, 04:57 PM

I have to be heard. I need hym to listen to me. And listen to me with the intent of understanding, not with the intent of changing my mind. We don't have to always agree, but I have to know I'm being heard.

candy_coated_bitch · 08-26-2016, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Orema

I have to be heard. I need hym to listen to me. And listen to me with the intent of understanding, not with the intent of changing my mind. We don't have to always agree, but I have to know I'm being heard.

This. I need to feel listened to. I need to feel accepted no matter what as well. And to feel valued. I also need a fair amount of attention.

homoe · 11-27-2017, 12:33 PM

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Originally Posted by adorable

I have been thinking about this for the last few days. Sometimes I think, we think we know - but do we really? Can we actually say or explain our needs to another person?

What makes YOU feel secure and loved?

Is it a way that someone talks to you? That they pay attention to how you feel and are in tune with your emotions? Do they make you feel interesting and special? Is it being able to say nothing and just "be" with that person?

Or is it in gestures? Flowers, breakfast in bed? Notes on the pillow?

Is it routine? Coming home every Friday and knowing that Friday is always pizza night? Making the bed together every morning? Sunday is cleaning day?

What do you need to feel loved the way that you need to be loved?

May I suggest scanning Chapman's book Five Languages of Love ...

girl_dee · 11-27-2017, 04:35 PM

To feel like a priority

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MitchM42 Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Aug 2016 Location: Florida Posts: 69 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 37 Thanked 125 Times in 38 Posts Rep Power: 429507	Your love language There is quiz you can take online that will tell you what you #1 and #2 languages are out of five. It was interesting, because my wife and I took and realized that we not only do NOT need the same things....but we also didn't "talk" in the language the other needed. I am a touch language and she is an act of service.

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