My head knows what my heart refuses to believe...

[Femmadian]

So sorry to hear about that, Cole. I found myself in a somewhat similar situation before and it takes a toll on both your heart and your sense of self worth. The realization of what you need to do is a hard thing to face and I truly think it's a grieving process because you're grieving the loss of your dreams for a future with this person.

One of the things that helped throw into sharp contrast how unacceptable the situation was was when a friend asked me what I would do if the situation was reversed, if I would be able to put them through what they were putting me through if I really cared about them. That was a hard pill to swallow, but definitely necessary (for me, anyway).

The one thing I have learned is to look at people's actions and not their words. People make time for what (and who) is important to them. If someone wants to be with you and cares about you, they will make you a priority in their lives, period. All the rest is just for show.

I hope things work out for you, whatever happens. With 7 billion+ people in the world (and what, like 350 million lesbian and bi women in the world, statistically speaking), you don't have to stay in a situation or with someone that's less than what you deserve.