That one question....

[Talon]

What do you want out of a relationship?
What kind of relationship do you want? .....>>*silence*

Or, OMG, have you met so-and-so?....


....Yeah, well, I don't really give a fuck, actually....

[MrSunshine]

I had to really think about this one.

I think "that one question" would have to be, "are you close with your family, cause, I couldn't date someone that wasn't close with their family".

First, you just said "cause" at which point I'm think you might just be a bit too close to your family and (cause) I think I just heard banjo music.

Second, I am not my family.

Third, what the fuck?

I seriously do not like that question.

[JDeere]

The same one that pajama posted!

Are you a boy or girl?

Shakes my head on this one!

[puddin']

the "boy or girl" question tickles me, as a genderqueer muse.

the one that gets me, though, is "do your parents know". i mean, wtf.

1. my parents are deceased and 2. they were totally supportive o' me whilst hea.

la la la la la la

[Loren_Q]

"Where are you from?"
"What's your nationality?"
"What are you?"

I got these a lot growing up. The 'nationality' one got weird because I'm an American. Here's a sample exchange:

Them: What's your nationality?
Me: I'm an American.
Them: No, I mean, where are you from?
Me: Originally from Arizona but have lived most of my life in California
Them: No, before that.
Me: I wasn't around before that.

[imperfect_cupcake]

"Are you the boy?"

believe it or not a lot of straight people think I'm butch.

them: "you know how in female gay relationships, one is the boy..."
me: "*some* of them, yes..."
them: "are you the boy?"
me: "um. Nnnnnoooooo.... "
*confused look*

It's odd because when I tell that to my gay mates they look at me as if I've just told them I'm actually a beetle. They see hyper feminine girly girl. My class mates see androgynous dyke with boy edges.

funny, hey?

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Loren_Q

"Where are you from?"
"What's your nationality?"
"What are you?"

I got these a lot growing up. The 'nationality' one got weird because I'm an American. Here's a sample exchange:

Them: What's your nationality?
Me: I'm an American.
Them: No, I mean, where are you from?
Me: Originally from Arizona but have lived most of my life in California
Them: No, before that.
Me: I wasn't around before that.

I can relate to this somewhat. I get 'Where are you from?" a LOT. It's my eyes. They are more exotic than the average person's. The rest of me is as average as you can get but that one feature throws people and I've had a group stand in front of me and try to determine my origins. Like I wasn't even there.

I've had people feel they have the right to tell me to take off my glasses, so they can get a better look at my eyes and figure me out. That happened at work.

I don't really go to bars anymore because I got tired of being told that I am high. What almond shaped eyes have to do with being high is beyond me (I'm making the assumption it comes from the whole heavy lidded 'bedroom eyes' thing but I can't say for sure what goes through people's minds), but if I avoid the places where shit like that normally occurs I don't have to deal with it.

There are a lot of people in this world that feel the need to disassemble someone's parts, one by one, especially if one of those parts don't mesh with what 'they' feel it should be.

Sorry that people can be such ignorant jackasses.

[Nic]

Originally Posted by Loren_Q

"Where are you from?"
"What's your nationality?"
"What are you?"

I got these a lot growing up. The 'nationality' one got weird because I'm an American. Here's a sample exchange:

Them: What's your nationality?
Me: I'm an American.
Them: No, I mean, where are you from?
Me: Originally from Arizona but have lived most of my life in California
Them: No, before that.
Me: I wasn't around before that.

Not that long ago someone asked me "what part of Mexico" I was from. I said, "I'm from Panama." He just nodded. Didn't occur to me until later that he had no clue they were different countries. Too busy shaking my head over his assumption that all brown people he hears speaking another language must be from Mexico.

[Greyson]

I have heard this all my life but now some people are not quite as verbal with their ignorance.

I too got a lot of "Where are you from? What is your Nationality? What are you?"

I would reply, I am Mexican American. Then this is the comment that really burned me up, "You don't act like a Mexican." For me that is a loaded comment. What the hell is a Mexican supposed to act like? Maybe I do not fit their stereotype and I am unsure if some even realize how racist that comment is. Another one, "But you know, you're not like them." I think they think they are being flattering when it fact they are showing their ignorance and racism.

[Ravenouss]

Originally Posted by Nic

Not that long ago someone asked me "what part of Mexico" I was from. I said, "I'm from Panama." He just nodded. Didn't occur to me until later that he had no clue they were different countries. Too busy shaking my head over his assumption that all brown people he hears speaking another language must be from Mexico.

Maybe he knew and was embarrassed remembering once there was a war that killed 23 American soldiers and 10,000+ civilians in Panama because the U.S. had decided their friend Noriega wasn't a good friend anymore and had to be replaced.

BUT, I do know what you mean that "nodding." Most time it's the realization they had made an assumption . Often times it's the bewilderment (where is that country???) and sometimes the mild guilty from the knowledge that it is yet another of the countries that were in the wrong place at the wrong time in U.S. foreign policy.