What are your life basics?

imperfect_cupcake · 01-28-2015, 02:03 AM

And perhaps I haven't been clear enough. I'm sorry if I haven't. It's not "what are your basic needs." But "what are your basic *to be happy* (or as gemme put it, "to thrive, not just exist") needs according to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, given that your needs in the bottom row have been met"

When you live in poverty, the bottom row of Maslow's pyramid is not met. I mean, beyond

"Air, food, water, clothing, shelter, sleep"

I mean how or what are the things that bring you the other levels:
How or what brings you a sense of Safety and security
How or what brings you a sense love and belonging
How or what brings you a sense Self esteem
How or what brings you a sense of Self actualisation

What does that for you? What are all the things or situations that bring that for you.

I apologise if it's been unclear. I did try with posting the link twice for people to click on to look at what I ment and try to explain a couple of times but I know I'm not the most articulate of people. I hope this is more clear to those I have have found me confusing.

cricket26 · 01-28-2015, 07:25 PM

i too apologize for posting in a thread that is an obvious trigger for me...so ....i will gracefully decline commenting further

TruTexan · 01-28-2015, 09:30 PM

I have a need to belong in my family
I have a need to know where I belong in life.
I have a need to feel like I'm not the only one dealing with the things I cope with daily.
I have a need for my friends to understand where I'm coming from when I speak
I have a need to be able to understand what I'm reading.....it sucks i have trouble with this.
I have a need to be more in control of my feelings, emotions, anger, love,etc.
I have a need to be more forgiving.
I have a desperate need to control my own thought processing, which is running amok almost daily and tends to interfere with reading and understanding what I've just read.
I have a need to get my ptsd and anxiety more under control.
I have a need to be heard, listened to, and have something done about it, not just leave me with my emotions and my heart in my lap holding them all alone.

I've been working on a lot of these with my therapist.

Katniss · 01-30-2015, 10:14 PM

A fast car
A full tank
Wi-Fi

Katniss~~(A simple girl with simple needs....)

01-28-2015, 07:25 PM	#2
cricket26 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: must be love on the brain Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: Texas Posts: 1,602 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 986 Thanked 4,263 Times in 1,314 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	i too apologize for posting in a thread that is an obvious trigger for me...so ....i will gracefully decline commenting further __________________ Life is a long lesson in humility. James M. Barrie

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TruTexan Senior Member How Do You Identify?: lesbian butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: in a one horse town in a large state, in the U.S. Posts: 3,952 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,112 Thanked 5,268 Times in 1,633 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I have a need to belong in my family I have a need to know where I belong in life. I have a need to feel like I'm not the only one dealing with the things I cope with daily. I have a need for my friends to understand where I'm coming from when I speak I have a need to be able to understand what I'm reading.....it sucks i have trouble with this. I have a need to be more in control of my feelings, emotions, anger, love,etc. I have a need to be more forgiving. I have a desperate need to control my own thought processing, which is running amok almost daily and tends to interfere with reading and understanding what I've just read. I have a need to get my ptsd and anxiety more under control. I have a need to be heard, listened to, and have something done about it, not just leave me with my emotions and my heart in my lap holding them all alone. I've been working on a lot of these with my therapist. __________________

01-30-2015, 10:14 PM	#4
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01-28-2015, 02:03 AM	#1
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,710 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	And perhaps I haven't been clear enough. I'm sorry if I haven't. It's not "what are your basic needs." But "what are your basic to be happy (or as gemme put it, "to thrive, not just exist") needs according to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, given that your needs in the bottom row have been met" When you live in poverty, the bottom row of Maslow's pyramid is not met. I mean, beyond "Air, food, water, clothing, shelter, sleep" I mean how or what are the things that bring you the other levels: How or what brings you a sense of Safety and security How or what brings you a sense love and belonging How or what brings you a sense Self esteem How or what brings you a sense of Self actualisation What does that for you? What are all the things or situations that bring that for you. I apologise if it's been unclear. I did try with posting the link twice for people to click on to look at what I ment and try to explain a couple of times but I know I'm not the most articulate of people. I hope this is more clear to those I have have found me confusing.