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02-09-2012, 05:32 PM
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allow yourself to be loved.
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02-09-2012, 08:58 PM
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Don't assume that the online version, weekend getaway version is the real thing, do your homework and don't hide from the truth. Honesty and reality are crucial to make it work, even the smallest hint of dishonesty will ruin it. Be real about who you are and what your hard limits are. You can't "make" someone fit no matter how badly you want to. The little things in the beginning become the BIG things in the end.
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02-10-2012, 11:48 AM
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It's probably been said a few times,
-Dont' lie. -Keep communication open. -Never say it's ok when it's not. -Forget about pride. -If you say sorry, mean it. -Don't compare your past with your present. -Give and take process. -Be aware of each other's feelings. -Be available. My biggest thing is COMMUNICATION. |
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02-10-2012, 06:18 PM
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Love like there is no tomorrow!
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02-13-2012, 04:37 AM
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I don't drive a Uhaul. :) 
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Communicate. It's the most important thing.
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02-13-2012, 05:32 AM
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Never lie...never, never, ever! Not in a relationship or just a friendship. Not for ANY reason!
It destroys trust, creates doubt and is just wrong! |
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02-13-2012, 06:37 AM
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Together and Apart
Nurture your own interests and life separate from your partner.
Maintain a little mystery. Create a time and space just for you and your partner to connect, without distraction or interruption. Make sacred space for your love and relationship.
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. "I need no warrant for being, and no word of sanction upon my being. I am the warrant and the sanction. " Ayn Rand, Anthem "So you'll die happily for your sins. You'd rather die in guilt then live in love?" Timothy Leary |
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02-13-2012, 07:07 AM
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Belly laugh together about those "only we can get" things. Let yourselves laugh to the point of tears.
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02-13-2012, 07:39 AM
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Recognize when your defenses are up out of fear or past baggage.
Admit it and talk about it. Allow yourself the vulnerability that comes from such openness. It fosters love and closeness. I work on this daily. ❤
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02-13-2012, 08:16 AM
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Talk, sometimes it's hard as hell but not talking just causes things to fester then they come out way too emotional.
Working on this now. |
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02-13-2012, 08:22 AM
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Always show appreciation for the things your partner does not matter how small.
When you are busy and cannot talk on the phone; explain politely you will call them back when you are free and say you are thinking of them; it does make a difference to your partner. They will feel wanted even if you can’t spend time with them until later. When doing things together; like reading, smile, blow a kiss or wink at your partner if you’re not snuggling together.
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02-13-2012, 08:43 PM
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what to do !
Listen with your head not your heart .. Sometimes you don't like to hear whats being said so you block it and get defensive ( I am guilty of this ) but listen and open your heart to whats being presented to you. ALWAYS kiss goodnight even when your mad. Make time to be a couple . I love date nite. We try at least once a week to check in with each other so the little things don't turn into big things ! Choose love always !
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02-14-2012, 06:49 AM
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02-14-2012, 07:26 AM
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what to DO....
Be grateful that you have one because a lot of people don't. Cherish it and know that although its not always perfect, you are loved and with very little effort you can make it extraordinary.
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02-14-2012, 04:38 PM
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be realistic! life isn't a fairy tale, If you sugar coat the hard stuff, or ignore those little things that you know are a problem for you, you'll one day choke to death on it... handle the hard stuff accordingly
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02-15-2012, 03:41 PM
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When she expresses that something is important to her, make that thing important to you too.
Be her biggest supporter and cheerleader in her goals and dreams. Do things that make her want to come home. Make your home a place where she finds peace freedom and happiness. Create an envoriment so that when anything happens good and bad to her , you're the first person she wants to run to.
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02-15-2012, 03:46 PM
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remember nobody is perfect and when things happen.. esp not intentional things...its not about what happen.. its about the measures taken to assure it doesn't happen again.
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02-15-2012, 03:57 PM
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Love is precious and sacred...keep it both!!
Actively LISTEN......be attentive....observe body language, mannerisms. Respect one another's individuality. Make a date night regularly..or a weekend getaway often..just you two...no phones..no TV..just you and her. Add spice to your time spent alone. Dance and steal a kiss in the rain. Laugh at silly things. Belly buster laughs are healthy! Never let the inner child go away...share that at times. Share a coke float or a banana split.... Forget yesterday...it is gone...enjoy today as tomorrow is a present. Lie close in one another's arms at night..and dance horizontally...whisper sweet nothings in one another's ear. Wake her in the middle of the night with that flaming hot desire that drew you to her in the first place..and make love! with wild abandon...grin Agree to diagree..no one is ever the clear winner if you don't...it is both equally. Never forget those feelings of how it was when you first fell in love..get those butterfly in your tummy feelings again...ask her for a date. Don't forget how she takes your breath away..every time she steps into your world. Validate.....resonate..rejuvenate...keep love young, vibrant, and alive!
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02-15-2012, 04:12 PM
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02-17-2012, 07:33 AM
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Practically Lives Here
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apologize when you need to
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