Non-packing butches

[Femminator]

My Butch does not pack, and until coming to the Butch-Femme site I had no idea that packing was something some Butches did. I don't judge a Butch by what's in their pants.

[Rope]

I only pack when I'm going to use it needless to say, it's not a soft pack.

Packing vs. non-packing is about personal preferences of the butch and has nothing to do with being butch enough or this or that kind of butch or whatever the hell people want to come up with.

Yes, I've met femmes that pack and butches that do and do not pack all the time, some of the time, only on a Sunday <g>....

Rope--

[Toughy]

I do not own any kind of soft pack, so obviously I do not pack. If I am going to a play party and intend to play then I pack and I pack hard because I am going to use it.

Let's see, circa 1970 Amarillo TX, when I came out we used socks to pack and I only knew folks that packed if they were in a drag show.

There are also butch folk out here who do not strap on a cock. Doesn't make them more or less butch, just makes them a non-packing, non-strapping butch.

Gender has nothing to do with sexual proclivities.

[femmennoir]

Any packing femmes? Just curious!

Elle*

[Maria]

Originally Posted by femmennoir

Any packing femmes? Just curious!

Elle*

Lots of femmes pack!

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by femmennoir

Any packing femmes? Just curious!

Elle*

http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/foru...ead.php?t=3839

[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by femmennoir

Any packing femmes? Just curious!

Elle*

i would never want to pack but if my butch wanted me to strap it on i would do it without hesitation...(She doesn't just for the record) in my eyes who is strapping, getting penetrated if anyone, penetrating, who is fucking who, on top , on bottom or hanging from the trapeze does NOT define butch or femme, top or bottom. Doing what feels good in the safety and comfort of that special person is what is right. No one can define that for you, not society and certainly not this website.

[iamkeri1]

Hey y'all,
I'm not trying to de-rail here, but I would like a little clarification or enhancement of what I thought I understood. I thought packing, whatever way you choose to do it, happened during non-sex (like sitting around the house or going out for the evening or having lunch at the in-laws house.)
I understand you can hard pack or soft pack or not pack at all, and its all good.

I've thought myself round in a circle and lost track of what I wanted to say, maybe just simply this. Is it still called packing DURING sex? I've heard the phrase many time "butches who strap on" Is that what one calls it during sex?

Crap!... I'm embarrasing the hell out of myself. Could you just tell me what you mean by "packing"?

Very embarrassed smooches,
Keri

[Mel C.]

Originally Posted by iamkeri1

Hey y'all,
I'm not trying to de-rail here, but I would like a little clarification or enhancement of what I thought I understood. I thought packing, whatever way you choose to do it, happened during non-sex (like sitting around the house or going out for the evening or having lunch at the in-laws house.)
I understand you can hard pack or soft pack or not pack at all, and its all good.

I've thought myself round in a circle and lost track of what I wanted to say, maybe just simply this. Is it still called packing DURING sex? I've heard the phrase many time "butches who strap on" Is that what one calls it during sex?

Crap!... I'm embarrasing the hell out of myself. Could you just tell me what you mean by "packing"?

Very embarrassed smooches,
Keri

I'm not gonna portray myself as an expert but strapping and packing are different in my mind. I think of packing as creating a bulge that appears similar to a penis. Strapping (again, in my opinion) is one way of securing the bulge so you don't lose it on the dance floor. Strapping can also describe wearing a strap-on for sex. I have never thought of "packing" as related to sex, other than the fact that some people see the bulge and are ready to giddyup

Oh, and feel free to check out the packing thread(s) cuz I am sure they would be happy to answer questions. You are also welcome to PM me.

[DapperButch]

Originally Posted by iamkeri1

Hey y'all,
I'm not trying to de-rail here, but I would like a little clarification or enhancement of what I thought I understood. I thought packing, whatever way you choose to do it, happened during non-sex (like sitting around the house or going out for the evening or having lunch at the in-laws house.)
I understand you can hard pack or soft pack or not pack at all, and its all good.

I've thought myself round in a circle and lost track of what I wanted to say, maybe just simply this. Is it still called packing DURING sex? I've heard the phrase many time "butches who strap on" Is that what one calls it during sex?

Crap!... I'm embarrasing the hell out of myself. Could you just tell me what you mean by "packing"?

Very embarrassed smooches,
Keri

In my world not during sex, packing (hard, soft). During sex, strapping. A butch who "straps on", means that they participate in strap on sex.

[Parker]

Originally Posted by iamkeri1

Hey y'all,
I'm not trying to de-rail here, but I would like a little clarification or enhancement of what I thought I understood. I thought packing, whatever way you choose to do it, happened during non-sex (like sitting around the house or going out for the evening or having lunch at the in-laws house.)
I understand you can hard pack or soft pack or not pack at all, and its all good.

I've thought myself round in a circle and lost track of what I wanted to say, maybe just simply this. Is it still called packing DURING sex? I've heard the phrase many time "butches who strap on" Is that what one calls it during sex?
Crap!... I'm embarrasing the hell out of myself. Could you just tell me what you mean by "packing"?

Very embarrassed smooches,
Keri

Please dont be embarrassed - you're just being honest and it's a good question - not to mention the fact that if one person poses the question, odds are there are others who have the same question, they just havent asked it ... yet.

I believe that, generally, when one speaks of packing, they mean that they are wearing (for lack of a better term) something that resembles or approximates a penis or butch cock under their clothing, i.e., a Mr. Softie, which is a realistic looking and feeling cock that resembles a flaccid penis. These can be worn with or without a harness.

Even if one speaks of "packing for play," generally speaking again, they mean they are wearing a hard cock with their harness (strap-on) under their clothing because they anticipate using it at some point in the near future.

I say generally speaking because (a) I dont speak for all butches and (b) some people may use different terms for different things or actions or they may just toss it all into the same pot and call it packing.

But a lot of times, you can usually guess what someone is talking about based on the context of what they are saying - so if someone mentions packing and fucking at the same time, they probably mean they were using a hard cock and harness for sex.


Also - if I could sneak off topic for one second here ..... I wanted to let you know that when you add font, bold, color, size, etc to your posts, you dont have to do it for each separate paragraph - you can highlight the whole post at once and add your font, etc that way .... saves time and energy.

[Two-spirit]

Hi,

I dont pack.and never have,I tried it once but when I slept on my stomach ..it hurt so I took it off..

The strap on comes out of the toy box when Im ready for it with the ladies..

[oksoftbutch]

Like two-spirit I don't pack either, but I have been known to oblige a beautiful femme....

[chris1life]

I just found this site so I'm a newbie and am finding it so helpful. I have always thought of myself as butch and I loved that about myself. Where I am from there doesn't seem to be a lot of butch women. Anyway after getting online to try And find more women Like me I stumbled across a site that pretty much led me to believe I am not "butch enough" Because I don't like my hair short (it looks horrible on me) I have large breast, I hate binding it hurts and I rarely ever pack Because in public around my neck of the woods isn't smart. I do love for my femme to to strap Nothing sexier than her begging to use her cock. Yummy but at the end of the day I'm her butch she tells me she wants to feel my cock while she is dancing with me at a club I strap it, pack it or what ever she wants.
It Really does help to see there are so many different types of women out there. Some times we are just hard on each other. One thing I have learned from all of this is I'm me. I'm butch enough for me. If packing makes u feel like a complete you then do it up if it doesn't then don't. Wear long hair or short hair bind or don't. Only thing that counts is if you are Happy.

[always2late]

Originally Posted by chris1life

I just found this site so I'm a newbie and am finding it so helpful. I have always thought of myself as butch and I loved that about myself. Where I am from there doesn't seem to be a lot of butch women. Anyway after getting online to try And find more women Like me I stumbled across a site that pretty much led me to believe I am not "butch enough" Because I don't like my hair short (it looks horrible on me) I have large breast, I hate binding it hurts and I rarely ever pack Because in public around my neck of the woods isn't smart. I do love for my femme to to strap Nothing sexier than her begging to use her cock. Yummy but at the end of the day I'm her butch she tells me she wants to feel my cock while she is dancing with me at a club I strap it, pack it or what ever she wants.
It Really does help to see there are so many different types of women out there. Some times we are just hard on each other. One thing I have learned from all of this is I'm me. I'm butch enough for me. If packing makes u feel like a complete you then do it up if it doesn't then don't. Wear long hair or short hair bind or don't. Only thing that counts is if you are Happy.

This post hit home for me...because sometimes our community (not THIS community, but our community in general) can get very caught up in definitions and labels. It seems that some are more comfortable living in a cookie-cutter world where only their personal definition of what is "butch" or "femme" is applied. It galls me when I hear someone say something like "oh, so and so isn't a REAL butch (or femme)" because of the way they look...their hair is too long, or too short, they don't wear the "right" clothes, etc... No one has the right, or invitation, to define anyone else. Besides, who wants to live in a world like that? Where everyone had to conform to some predefined version of what butch or femme is? How boring would that be??

[TruTexan]

I'm a non packer. It's never even crossed my mind til now about packing. Hmmm, I wonder what it's like to pack? Maybe one day I'll try it an see if I like it. Who knows. But packing or not packing does NOT define my butchness. I am who I am and I'm me, period.

[whale]

I think it's too much work for me to handle. I don't bind nor pack and I think I'm keeping it like that for a while.

[Tuff Stuff]

Originally Posted by stephfromMIT

I read the "Packing 101" thread, and rather than derail it, I'm curious if I'm the only butch here who doesn't pack, and has no interest in packing?

I only pack when I play.
Another poster wrote,it misses with their head when it comes off,huh?
tg my comes off...personally I can't see myself packing 24/7.

I don't bind,either...not much there to hide.

That is all

[Mormegil]

I dont pack or bind and Im a 44dd . Doesnt make me feel any less masculine not to. just like having larger breasts doesnt bother me other than they get in the way sometimes and they seem to be bra slayers. You can also however use them as a tray to lay a sandwich on when your relaxing back on the couch...just saying.