If You Could Turn Back Time, What Would You Do Differently? - Page 2

Gemme · 03-15-2012, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Scuba

...not have left my dog at the kennel....I'd give anything to undo this.

So many times I wished I hadn't left pets with a particular ex. I have no idea where they are, if they are even still alive and if they aren't, if it was natural or not.

Elijah · 10-31-2012, 11:49 PM

Sometimes I think I regret the nearly 15 years I lost to drinking, however, the recovery process was probably the single-most-character-building-journey I have ever been on and the great thing is, it is, in fact, a journey, not a destination, with many more lessons ahead...

LaneyDoll · 03-15-2012, 01:58 PM

I would have forgiven faster and angered slower.

I would have stood up to my mom's family more often and let go when the time was due, rather than sulk/brood over the choices they made about me.

I would have used the nice china and celebrated each dinner that my family shared together.

I would have cleaned less and relaxed more.

I would have tried to put myself more in the path that hurt my sister and I would have let go because of realizing that there was no way to do it.

I would have done things to better "me." I cannot complain about my life because I happen to think my life is pretty good.

Blade · 03-15-2012, 02:22 PM

I would have spent more time with Pop the past 6 years.

Blade · 10-31-2012, 05:46 PM

I would not have gotten out of bed this morning...think I'll go back there now.

Gráinne · 11-01-2012, 12:10 AM

I am remourseful for any of my words, actions or decisions that hurt anyone else. I am flawed and far from the most tactful person out there.

That said, the answer would be, "Not a damn thing."

MissItalianDiva · 11-01-2012, 12:19 AM

If I could turn back time I would not have just wasted 30 min of my life actually watching "My life is a Lifetime movie"...smh if that doesn't keep you single

Spirit Dancer · 11-03-2012, 06:58 AM

I would have tried harder to get my friend to listen, I miss her dearly.

Duchess · 10-31-2012, 11:53 PM

I would have my grandfather get a second opinion.

bright_arrow · 02-20-2013, 09:14 AM

If I could turn back time..

I would have left an emotionally abusive relationship sooner, and on my own grounds, face to face. With that said, I would not have tried a second time to repair it.

I would take back the things I said to her in fear to push you away.

I would not sacrifice my home, family, and job for what turned out to be nothing but another notch in her belt.

I never would have gone to her house over spring break, thus meaning I never would of ODed and ended in the ER.

I would tell my newly outed gay self that I did not have to save every 'damsel in distress', and that my happiness was important just as much as my partner's. I did not have to change to be loved, that no one was worth the hurt of any temporary changes attempted.

I would tell my younger self that communication is important. I grew up in a household where looks and thinly veiled threats communicated feelings, especially anger, and to this day there are days where all my cues are physical, none verbal.

torchiegirl · 02-21-2013, 10:58 AM

*with the notion that change is good:

To have found such vigor for learning sooner in life would have been super! Who knows what doors may have opened, presuming they would have led to something "good", some degree of self actualization or invited insanity.

And a new beginning awaits...

...so it is quite possible that I may have ended up right here, where I am now, and I'd rather be no other place.

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Rockinonahigh · 02-21-2013, 11:40 AM

If I could do some of this mess over the one thing I would do is listen to wiser people,my life would havebeen so much better.

VintageFemme · 02-21-2013, 11:44 AM

Take my time. Slow down. It all goes too fast anyhow and hurrying things along, well you miss so much & you make too many quick mistakes. I probably wouldn't really change any one thing perse as I am an avid believer in the butterfly effect, but I would def take things much slower if I could have a do over.

TheMerryFairy · 02-21-2013, 12:13 PM

I would have been more careful in my decisions.

Blade · 04-26-2013, 07:57 PM

I would have stayed in college
I would have taken a bigger interest in computers back then
I would have spent a lot more time with people, who are gone now.
Funny how you think of all sorts of questions you wish you had ask them after they are gone.

Kenna · 04-26-2013, 09:50 PM

not leave Shenandoah valley ...I promised a very special person that as years went on, I'd be there to take care of her like she did me. I'd turn back time to get the past 14 years back...I'd never move away for the sake of chasing a paycheck. She was worth so much more.

Turtle · 04-26-2013, 11:35 PM

I would be a little older, do my homework and study a little more, and have gone to work for and dive with Jacques Cousteau.

But this has all worked out very nicely...

~baby~doll~ · 04-27-2013, 04:50 PM

I would have gotten her address and full name or whatever would help me find her.

I should have found a way.

willow · 04-27-2013, 05:11 PM

Everything and nothing? If I can play around with time then everything is possible isn't it? I could try out every scenario of every situation. I could follow every dream, even the fleeting waking dreams. Then when I'd done it all I could come back to where I am now. The people I love now would still be here because I didn't wish them away.

Yes that is what I'd do. Everything and nothing.

Trev · 04-28-2013, 08:43 AM

I wouldn't do anything differently. I'm in the place of my life because of the paths I've chosen to take. I have no regrets, however I have learned many lessons. Without those lessons, I'd make the same mistakes... Keep taking chances or you'll miss great opportunities.

10-31-2012, 11:49 PM	#2
Elijah Member How Do You Identify?: Genderqueer Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Masculine ones Relationship Status: Open to healthy possibilities... Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Michigan Posts: 554 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 738 Thanked 1,629 Times in 393 Posts Rep Power: 21474851	Sometimes I think I regret the nearly 15 years I lost to drinking, however, the recovery process was probably the single-most-character-building-journey I have ever been on and the great thing is, it is, in fact, a journey, not a destination, with many more lessons ahead... __________________ "There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness but of power. They are messengers of overwhelming grief and of unspeakable love." ~Washington Irving

03-15-2012, 01:58 PM	#3
LaneyDoll Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Girly girl femme Preferred Pronoun?: She; Ma'am; Miss ;) Relationship Status: Pitbull protected. Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Birmingham, AL Posts: 2,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,892 Thanked 7,683 Times in 1,607 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I would have forgiven faster and angered slower. I would have stood up to my mom's family more often and let go when the time was due, rather than sulk/brood over the choices they made about me. I would have used the nice china and celebrated each dinner that my family shared together. I would have cleaned less and relaxed more. I would have tried to put myself more in the path that hurt my sister and I would have let go because of realizing that there was no way to do it. I would have done things to better "me." I cannot complain about my life because I happen to think my life is pretty good. __________________ There are beauties who stop traffic and then there are beauties who grow obsessively in the hearts of the susceptible.

03-15-2012, 02:22 PM	#4
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,412 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I would have spent more time with Pop the past 6 years. __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

10-31-2012, 05:46 PM	#5
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,412 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I would not have gotten out of bed this morning...think I'll go back there now. __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

11-01-2012, 12:10 AM	#6
Gráinne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Neither, nada, out of the box Preferred Pronoun?: My name always works Relationship Status: Happy whatever happens Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Little Rock Posts: 1,864 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,117 Thanked 7,386 Times in 1,457 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I am remourseful for any of my words, actions or decisions that hurt anyone else. I am flawed and far from the most tactful person out there. That said, the answer would be, "Not a damn thing." __________________ The odds of going to the store for a loaf of bread and coming out with only a loaf of bread are three billion to one. ~Erma Bombeck

11-01-2012, 12:19 AM	#7
MissItalianDiva Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Miss Twiggy Preferred Pronoun?: Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious and that shit doesn't sound atrocious! Relationship Status: divorce happens..all that glitters ain't gold Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: SLC Utah Posts: 2,284 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,768 Thanked 7,159 Times in 1,793 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	If I could turn back time I would not have just wasted 30 min of my life actually watching "My life is a Lifetime movie"...smh if that doesn't keep you single

11-03-2012, 06:58 AM	#8
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02-20-2013, 09:14 AM	#10
bright_arrow ☆ the stars are aligned ☆ How Do You Identify?: one queer mama Preferred Pronoun?: she/her Relationship Status: married to my Boo Daddy <3 Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: nor cal Posts: 2,910 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,644 Thanked 9,363 Times in 2,296 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	If I could turn back time.. I would have left an emotionally abusive relationship sooner, and on my own grounds, face to face. With that said, I would not have tried a second time to repair it. I would take back the things I said to her in fear to push you away. I would not sacrifice my home, family, and job for what turned out to be nothing but another notch in her belt. I never would have gone to her house over spring break, thus meaning I never would of ODed and ended in the ER. I would tell my newly outed gay self that I did not have to save every 'damsel in distress', and that my happiness was important just as much as my partner's. I did not have to change to be loved, that no one was worth the hurt of any temporary changes attempted. I would tell my younger self that communication is important. I grew up in a household where looks and thinly veiled threats communicated feelings, especially anger, and to this day there are days where all my cues are physical, none verbal.

02-21-2013, 10:58 AM	#11
torchiegirl Member How Do You Identify?: femme Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: in the mitten Posts: 1,282 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,807 Thanked 1,610 Times in 549 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	*with the notion that change is good: To have found such vigor for learning sooner in life would have been super! Who knows what doors may have opened, presuming they would have led to something "good", some degree of self actualization or invited insanity. And a new beginning awaits... ...so it is quite possible that I may have ended up right here, where I am now, and I'd rather be no other place. ... ... ...

02-21-2013, 11:40 AM	#12
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02-21-2013, 11:44 AM	#13
VintageFemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Outside Posts: 2,299 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,828 Thanked 7,620 Times in 1,655 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Take my time. Slow down. It all goes too fast anyhow and hurrying things along, well you miss so much & you make too many quick mistakes. I probably wouldn't really change any one thing perse as I am an avid believer in the butterfly effect, but I would def take things much slower if I could have a do over. __________________ Unfinished Business & Open to Serendipity

02-21-2013, 12:13 PM	#14
TheMerryFairy Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Pansexual/Sapiosexual femmey dyke who likes to crossdress now and then Preferred Pronoun?: She/her OR ze if I'm crossdressing Relationship Status: Floating and walking My path, happy in life. Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: On my Merry Fairy way! , Canada Posts: 3,630 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,727 Thanked 8,694 Times in 2,987 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I would have been more careful in my decisions.

04-26-2013, 07:57 PM	#15
Blade Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: TG Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: once in a while someone amazing comes along...and here I am! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Down on the farm Posts: 5,501 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,855 Thanked 14,412 Times in 4,058 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	I would have stayed in college I would have taken a bigger interest in computers back then I would have spent a lot more time with people, who are gone now. Funny how you think of all sorts of questions you wish you had ask them after they are gone. __________________ Yeah so what if I'm triple dipped in awesome sauce? The best way to predict the future, is to create it.

04-26-2013, 09:50 PM	#16
Kenna Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Fiery, Sassy, Tough As Nails, Femme Tomboy Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: I am your favorite hello and hardest goodbye. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NC & CO Posts: 4,806 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,624 Thanked 12,191 Times in 3,779 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	not leave Shenandoah valley ...I promised a very special person that as years went on, I'd be there to take care of her like she did me. I'd turn back time to get the past 14 years back...I'd never move away for the sake of chasing a paycheck. She was worth so much more. __________________ **************************** She has been through hell, so believe me when I say, fear her when she looks into a fire and smiles. ~E.Corona~

04-26-2013, 11:35 PM	#17
Turtle Senior Member How Do You Identify?: A mixity Preferred Pronoun?: whatever Relationship Status: chillin Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: in a really really cute little place Posts: 2,144 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,442 Thanked 4,529 Times in 1,220 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I would be a little older, do my homework and study a little more, and have gone to work for and dive with Jacques Cousteau. But this has all worked out very nicely...

04-27-2013, 04:50 PM	#18
~baby~doll~ Member How Do You Identify?: femme-bottom, lesbian, queer Preferred Pronoun?: feminine ones Relationship Status: Leather polyamorous family Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: with HER Posts: 1,110 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,494 Thanked 2,857 Times in 905 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I would have gotten her address and full name or whatever would help me find her. I should have found a way. __________________ i will wait to love You. i will wait another day For You i'd leave all this behind. i will wait for you tonight. iwill waste another dream on You Always run to You. Uh Huh Her

04-27-2013, 05:11 PM	#19
willow Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: sugar and spice Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: at the end of the rainbow Posts: 6,782 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,477 Thanked 6,730 Times in 1,825 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Everything and nothing? If I can play around with time then everything is possible isn't it? I could try out every scenario of every situation. I could follow every dream, even the fleeting waking dreams. Then when I'd done it all I could come back to where I am now. The people I love now would still be here because I didn't wish them away. Yes that is what I'd do. Everything and nothing. __________________ Do not meddle in the affairs of Dragons, for you are crunchy and taste good with ketchup! http://fc05.deviantart.net/fs11/i/20...ockAvatars.gif

04-28-2013, 08:43 AM	#20
Trev Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Just a good ole boy Preferred Pronoun?: Male ones Relationship Status: She Thinks My Tractor's Sexy Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Somewhere between right and wrong Posts: 3,372 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,988 Thanked 10,142 Times in 2,400 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I wouldn't do anything differently. I'm in the place of my life because of the paths I've chosen to take. I have no regrets, however I have learned many lessons. Without those lessons, I'd make the same mistakes... Keep taking chances or you'll miss great opportunities. __________________ Trev