Talkin' 'bout love...

Bit · 11-08-2009, 05:12 PM

My thoughts: The only difference I personally have found between "love" and "romantic love" is that when it's "romantic love" I want to have sex with the person.

I am truly serious here; if you (you in general) don't love your partner the way you love a best friend, if you don't trust your partner with your child's life, if you wouldn't give your partner a kidney.... why are they your partner? What the heck do you get out of the relationship, if you don't have that level of trust and love?

"Being in love" is, I think, the lust and infatuation phase of "romantic love." If you're high on being with someone, you are "being in love." It cannot last forever for normal people. We fall out of "being in love"... the question is, what do we fall INTO?

In my case, I fall into the kind of love where I would give my kidney, my lung, one eye and half my liver without thinking twice if my love needed them.

Not only that, but in Gryph's case? I would give him Lady.

I suspect he might be the only one who understands that I would be giving him half my soul... and that understanding is why I could give her to him. He would cherish her forever.

"Being in love" is highly overrated. I personally don't need to live my life high, stoned on lust and hormones; I need to live it real, with both feet solidly on the ground and someone next to me just as solid. I need to live life loving each other for the long haul. I need to live life connected with a broad deep love that flows like a river to the sea, constant and self-replenishing; a love that uses all things, even the storms of life, to deepen and renew itself; a love that sustains vibrant life all around and brings richness to everything it touches.

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11-08-2009, 05:12 PM	#2
Bit Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Stonefemme Relationship Status: married to Gryph Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Wichita, KS Posts: 2,177 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,126 Thanked 3,772 Times in 1,264 Posts Rep Power: 10778869	My thoughts: The only difference I personally have found between "love" and "romantic love" is that when it's "romantic love" I want to have sex with the person. I am truly serious here; if you (you in general) don't love your partner the way you love a best friend, if you don't trust your partner with your child's life, if you wouldn't give your partner a kidney.... why are they your partner? What the heck do you get out of the relationship, if you don't have that level of trust and love? "Being in love" is, I think, the lust and infatuation phase of "romantic love." If you're high on being with someone, you are "being in love." It cannot last forever for normal people. We fall out of "being in love"... the question is, what do we fall INTO? In my case, I fall into the kind of love where I would give my kidney, my lung, one eye and half my liver without thinking twice if my love needed them. Not only that, but in Gryph's case? I would give him Lady. I suspect he might be the only one who understands that I would be giving him half my soul... and that understanding is why I could give her to him. He would cherish her forever. "Being in love" is highly overrated. I personally don't need to live my life high, stoned on lust and hormones; I need to live it real, with both feet solidly on the ground and someone next to me just as solid. I need to live life loving each other for the long haul. I need to live life connected with a broad deep love that flows like a river to the sea, constant and self-replenishing; a love that uses all things, even the storms of life, to deepen and renew itself; a love that sustains vibrant life all around and brings richness to everything it touches.