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Femme and I prefer the term cissexed |
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11 | 16.67% |
Femme and I prefer the terms XY Male / XX Female |
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2 | 3.03% |
Femme and I prefer the terms Bio Male/ Bio Female |
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20 | 30.30% |
Female Identified Butch and I prefer the term cissexed |
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2 | 3.03% |
Female Identified Butch and I prefer the terms XY Male/XX Female |
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1 | 1.52% |
Female Identified Butch and I prefer the terms Bio Male/Bio Female |
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5 | 7.58% |
Transgendered Butch (neither male nor female) and I prefer the term cissexed |
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2 | 3.03% |
Transgendered Butch (neither male nor female) and I prefer the terms XY Male and XX Female |
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3 | 4.55% |
Transgendered Butch (neither male nor female) and I prefer the terms Bio Male and Bio Female |
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5 | 7.58% |
Male Identified Butch and I prefer the term transsexed |
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0 | 0% |
Male Identified Butch and I prefer the terms XY Male and XX Female |
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0 | 0% |
Male Identified Butch and I prefer the terms Bio Male and Bio Female |
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2 | 3.03% |
Transsexed person ON hormones and prefer the term cissexed |
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1 | 1.52% |
Transsexed person ON hormones and I prefer the terms XY Male and XX Female |
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3 | 4.55% |
Transsexed person ON hormones and I prefer the terms Bio Male and Bio Female |
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5 | 7.58% |
Transsexed person NOT on hormones and I prefer the term cissexed |
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1 | 1.52% |
Transsexed person NOT on hormones and I prefer the terms XY Male and XX Female |
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0 | 0% |
Transsexed person NOT on hormone and I prefer the terms Bio Male and Bio Female |
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3 | 4.55% |
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i think this thread is a great idea...
it'll be interesting to see how ppl respond, if they can get past the poll! ;-) i am femme and id as cisgender, i use because i see it has helping to make the invisible privileges i was born into visible, not just to other cisgendered folks, but to myself as well. i see it as a way also to challenge the idea that the dominant culture's expectations of gender expression is what is "normal" and anything outside that box is "deviant" or "other". to adapt the old hetero quote: cisgender expression isn't normal, it's just common. |
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I totally agree! Transsexual/transgendered was not a label that was originally introduced by the people whom it was intended to label; it was a label assigned to people by the dominant culture who had the ability to force a label onto a group of people. I think that the only reason this is a debate right now is b/c cis attempts to label non-trans folks in a way that doesn't set us up as the norm, and the discomfort comes from it not feeling like the "normal" id. i needed a lot of dialogue around it before i felt like i understood and was comfortable using it, privilege can easily be discounted by those who have it.
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Until I started on line with BF communities I had NO IDEA there extent of different identities. I don't use any term "cis" simply because until this particular thread I never really understood the distinction. I do know so... THANK YOU.
I consider myself a third gender, but I come at it from a shamanic perspective. I had no idea until I started my research that shamans were and are considered to be the third gender. I felt like I finally had a reference point to what I had referred to myself consistently over the years. Then I came to BF communities and found out there was another way to determine third gender. I have found that my referring to myself as the third gender is often poopooed or not given any notice <shoulder shrug>. Doesn't change it, just interesting to 'feel' the response. It has been a LLLLOOOONNNGGGG journey for me to embrace my feminine side. I never had any problem with my female gender, I have never had gender dysphoria, and I am grateful for that. I was revising a teaching I had done from 2006 to teach in early 2011. In my notes was a reference to wanting to/wishing to find my feminine side... and totally forgot that... and then voila here I am 2011 and have found myself not only finding my feminine side, but lovingly embracing it. So... I did not participate in the poll because I did not understand it at first glance. now I understand what the OP was after. I respect the poll, and certainly respect each posters opinions and thoughts. I just wanted to share a foxes thoughts...
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I'm an FTM and I personally ID as Male, but I don't really go into Bio or Cis cuz I guess I just see Myself as a regular guy :-)
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I too am a FTM, and see myself just as a guy. It is other people who seem to have issues with my id from what I have learned over time.
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When I look back, I may not have had the terminology, but in the midst of questioning my sexuality, I questioned my gender. I never felt that I was male, but I sure knew I wasn't "of the norm" as a woman and a female and that heterosexuality (then, bi-sexuality) just wasn't who I was. Even in the kind of culture I was living in early on (the "mountain town"). For me, sexuality and gender identity was intermingled for a very long time. Consequently, cis-gendered or cis-sexed doesn't work for me as an individual. However, I can see where it does for many people. Something else that has never fit is putting down women that do fit into the binary. It seems like not just a few femmes have been subjected to down right cruelty due to that kind of thinking because they may "appear" to fit the stereotype of the binary feminine or woman/female. All in all- Queer seems to be the best fitting term for what I feel internally and about myself externally. But, I see the cis-gender/sexed theories can have a positive impact on society. We just have to get out of the confines of the binary system as it has stood for so long. Mainly, I want for all of us to be accepted as we are. |
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"Against"? As in by way of a comparison? I'm not sure how it's possible to compare lesbian butches with trans/gendered people. They are different identities - not the opposite of one another. You can compare apples with apples, but not bananas. Sullivan and Murray's characterization leaves me cold. Lesbian butch is not a "norm" by any criteria I'm aware of, nor does it confer any real or imagined privilege. Quote:
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i disagree that it is always that and i believe that there are some benefits to be had as well by those who conform. i do what feels right to me. does that mean i follow all of the norms or that i'm a virgin/whore wrapped up in a pretty package for your pleasure?? ...hells no. do i identify myself as aligned with the body i was born into? yes. does that give me certain rights? i would argue that yah, it does, unless you are living completely outside of society (in which case that's a whole other story). but because my sex aligns with the way i see myself, and the way that society views me i get to do things like get a job, i don't have to try to pass for someone i am not in order to feel or be safe, i don't have to explain my sex/gender to people, i can get a driver license/passport that id's me the way i want to be id'd (without any hassle or red tape), i get to use a bathroom without fear of having security called or getting beat up. basic stuff. things that should not be denied any group of people, but are. that's all i'm sayin. |
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Even "being alternative", "gender queer", "fringe", "going G", yada, yada, can be a form of conformity. The conformity within my biker community comes to mind. (Accountants during the work week; Hell's Angeles on the weekend.) Quote:
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![]() Being aligned with the body you're born into isn't a "privilege". "Privilege" is a social construct - an arbitrary, subjective reality based on social norms and convention. You either buy into a given social construct (any construct), or you don't. Butches do not have gender "privilege". They do not conform to the gender consructs of this culture be they female identified butches or not. And btw, the opposite of "privileged" isn't deprivileged - it's unprivileged. Few women in this culture are "privileged". The LGBTQs should take care not to reinforce dominant culture myths that work against, or divide us. Deprivileged = the loss of social privilege; to lose an advantage Unprivileged = never being socially advantaged in the first place. (Butches and most women.) PS: Foot binding was considered a gender norm among the "privileged" class in China not so long ago. Genital mutilation is still a norm in certain cultures. These practices are seen as making a woman more attractive and desirable. I suppose they advantage women who align with these practices. But, I'm loath to say they confer "privilege". |
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I certainly see your points- yet, as a woman, you (and I as a butch woman) are more likely in this society to be sexually or phyically and emotionally assualted. Statistics demonstrate this. Just as there are higher rates of abuse and violence against transwomen within the tran population. So, being recognized as female, no matter the internal beliefs (or external presentation as observed by a potential abuser) of an individual continues (unfortunately) to be more dangerous across the board. Add race, ethnicity and class to the mix and rates of abuse and violence against women (or those perceived as women) increase further. |
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Something that is going through my mind about the concept/construct of comformity and gender variation or fluidity has to do with when a couple a trans partner (or both could be) takes on heteronormative conformity by emulating being "straight."
These thoughts came to me while watching the Chaz Bono doc- when they said- "We are straight, now." First of all, not every couple with trans participants/partner(s) adopts being straight as it is commonly defined. Perhaps that is the problem- definitions that are static and have no elasticity? Or maybe, the hetero-normative construct continues to be so instilled in society and so potent, we just can't shake it. OK, I do not have any issues with anyone adopting a straight couple persona if that is what they want. I do, however, wish that this was not a conclusion jumped to- within or outside of the couplehood. I hope I am posing this clearly... Mainly, I think we often fall prey to constructs of social conformity that are just plain false. |
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In my mind if I were ever to transition, big if, it would be my id in flux, not my partners. Just a thought.
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You don't sound snarky, you sound incisive. Incisive is good !
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My bf considers himself a straight man, all he ever wanted was to be a normal guy. Of course his gf is queer, half his friends are queer and he's completely comfortable in a queer environment. None of that detracts from the fact that he's a normal guy who goes to work and fancies girls. Isn't that what us LGBT's have been fighting for all this time, the right to be as normal as the next guy?
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Hmmm bumpin this thread up.
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