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If someone wants to wear a csrtain type of clothing to convey this, then leave them be and let them do what makes them one with how they ID. Its not about what they where, it is about how what they wear makes them feel. If that makes her an idiot, then I am one proud idiot in all my butchness. Just my .02
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I dont know what made me a butch... other than I was just born this way. If my mom put some frilly thing or dress on me as soon as I hit the door to go outside it came off.. I would run the hood neekid rather than wear frilly stuff, thats just how I was. I dont think you can lump us butches in a neat box like that,we have our own tastes and likes about everything *shrugs* even how we like to dress,or what type we are attracted to.
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I have nails most women would kill someone for, hard strong and chip free. Sometimes I let them grow to phenomenal lengths, sometimes I cut them down to nothing. They grow long in 1 week, keeping up is a chore and unless I'm writing a thesis they are pretty much not in the way. It has nothing to do with who I am.
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I have never had nails until now. So for most of my lesbian life I have not had nails or nail polish despite being femme. In fact a lesbian twigged me in a straight setting once, purely on the basis of my hands.
I'm femme and I walk like a man apparently. Somehow I can manage this even in heels, which I don't wear any more so I guess I walk like a man all the time now. My hubby used to have long hair in his previous life, it was the only 'feminine' thing about him. Obviously now it's shortshort, but he still misses his hair sometimes. Hair, nails, walk, none of it really has a 'gender'. Anyone can 'drink like a man' or 'cry like a girl'. Yet even though our gender attributes are all mixed up, we all still know if we're male or female/ masculine or feminine/ gay or straight. It's strange that we just know, it's strange that we need to have these distinctions. It's an interesting question. What is a butch if it has nothing to with hair, clothing or sex? What is it that defines her and contrasts her to a femme? I wish I knew the answer to that.
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I remember a past partner of mine expressing her displeasure and concern over my wearing blouses to work ( i changed jobs while we were together and had to get dressed up more). She felt it took away from my butchness. I doubt much of anything could take away my butchness but that’s just me. I also painted my toenails orange one summer. I thought it looked good with my tan. Again my partner was not a fan. I have never done my fingernails I just don't think I would like it much or do it well. I had enough trouble coloring inside the lines as a kid. Toenails are more forgiving. My wife doesn't care what I do. She has encouraged me to let my hair grow cause she loves the curls. I don't get the feeling she things my butchness is connected to anything outside myself. |
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that's the kind of thread that would feel new to me. there may suddenly be a "need" to start a femme version of this thread sigh (maybe there already is one?) we all have our own types we are attracted to and hopefully they evolve as we do (hopefully) period. the end. I think threads like this set up more of a competition (undercurrent) amongst each other. At the end of the day Who cares how you present ,just be ok with yourself ( an inside job ) Insecurities ,jealousy and in fighting. I've seen it, felt it and know it's true. I could give a fuck who you (the general you) are dating ,because guess what, I don't want her. That's not how I roll or the kind of human being I am. I can count the butch friends I have on one hand.(after many years online and in real life) They are all secure in themselves and know I am not a threat to their relationships or "butch-hood" <eyeroll> I could give a fuck what they wear swimming and would not diss them. There is no weird (frat boy) butch posturing... I hate that more than anything. <puke> Or leg lifting , a trait I've seen in all genders <ew> I have (in my many years) been attracted to femme's with short nails and short hair <gasp> brains, compassion, integrity and humor are hot. ("be about something") It takes more than getting your nails done and hairs did to keep me interested. call me crazy I have many a gay man crush based of their honesty first and their pretty eyes or a nice ass second. Real allies in this life? I dig them. period. on a bit of a roll today pardon me |
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my first recalls of being emotionally attracted to women were teachers in 3rd and 5th grades. one teacher was sweet. the other was strict. it was about the way they treated me with a feminine way of affection and caring. these were some the first feelings that i had, .. knowing but unknowing to an extent, ... that i am a lesbian.
i've never changed a tire or changed the oil. i like sundresses. i'm quiet, ... i don't make a scene. what i do in life is preference. what we like to do or what we like to wear/appearance or how we act, ... varies. we are individuals. our personalities are attracted to what feels natural, at ease. or simply what we think makes us look good. whatever gets the groove on. choice and natural meet up to form indiviualism. it's true, energy differentiates butch and femme. i am a lesbian butch. i was born with some masculine traits. not entirely. for example, i am an emotional person. the tears roll so easy. that's not thought of as masculine. a butch is a female with some maleness about her. just a woman with a bit of butchiness. and with that said, i'm under the impression that some femmes like it. that's a good deal from where i am. |
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Being butch or femme is not a matter of outward accoutrements (dress, hair, nails). And sometimes it isn't even a matter of self-identity. It is truly a matter of energy.
Many butches are indeed female-bodied; others find themselves along a range of trans-expression (whether they are still female-bodied or not). All of them generate male energy, whether in a swagger, a smirk, a look, a presence. It is an intrinsic part of their very core. Put one of them in a dress or red nails. They're still butch. For me, though, to see their delicious maleness transposed over a fleeting whisper of femaleness that sometimes passes across their faces is...... well....swoonable. It is a soft expression of vulnerability within a strong persona. Damn... |
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Being butch is every fibre of my make up, it's who I am. Put me in a dress and I am a butch in a dress. Dress me in a starched white shirt,cuff links,tie, waistcoat,jacket and trousers and I feel like its a second skin, a glove, moulding my body and exuding my confidence.
I love being butch - its who I am.
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Butch just radiates from me. I AM butch, I was born butch...not taught how to be butch. It is who I am, how I act, how I dress, and it is tattooed on me.
I take pride in being butch. I have never known how to act like some females...which to ME, that would be like doing my hair, nails, liking to shop, wearing make-up, accessorising with jewelry, etc. I know that there are even some men that are good at those things....I am not. The funny thing is, there are some things that a lot of butches like to do that I don't care to do; like working on cars....I cannot stand to get grease and dirt all over my hands and around my cuticles. I sit back and think my buddy Cheech is REALLY butch because he does like to work on cars and stuff, but then he will turn around and say that he thinks I am REALLY butch because I am good at building things and good with tools. We have had this discussion a gazillion times over beer and wings. I could build a room addition before I could change my oil....lol Anyway, as far as what makes a butch a butch.....well, that is up to the individual person. I don't really think that anything MAKES someone butch, I think it is just something that is very natural and it comes from within one's heart and soul....their core.
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I have masculine energy and exude masculinity, but I am not a man or male and do not exude anything to do with men, males, or maleness. Again, it may be semantics to some, but to me, there is a huge difference between masculine and male - I am the former but I will never be the latter. |
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mean any offense to the Original Post. I do get there are people here of all ages and growing processes. My post was not meant to minimize anyone but just an observation I've had over the years. I could almost bet in a day or so a "gold star butch" will appear who is the greatest butch of all ( in their own mind) and I think that kind of posturing is gross. I like to think someone might get some comfort from what old goats have to say as well. I'm not trying to shut down the conversation at all, in fact. I like to think there is room for everyone here and I have earned my seat here as well, thanks. |
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My sisters and brothers all agree, Butch is owned by those who are.
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well i'll say on my part that i shouldn't have used the word maleness. i don't even like it lol. i certainly didn't mean in any way that a butch is male. i just associated the two words together maleness/masculine. i can understand how some could be offended by either word. i don't have a male sex organ and i do not want a male sex organ. it would probably serve me well to just identify as a woman.
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