Pronouns

[cathexis]

If more people would ask, there would be less errors. Eventually, they will learn to ask. Until then, there will be many awkward interactions.

[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by cathexis

If more people would ask, there would be less errors. Eventually, they will learn to ask. Until then, there will be many awkward interactions.

i do ask but i forget!

[cathexis]

Originally Posted by girl_dee

i do ask but i forget!

dee, I forget too. Sometimes it gets embarrassing, so I ask again blaming it on the ol' memory.

[JDeere]

Originally Posted by MissGentleman

Does it offend you when someone calls you by your former or an unwanted pronoun?

It doesn't really offend me if I get called "him", but it does seem a bit strange. I'm much more comfortable with "her" and other female pronouns. I still have a bit of trouble remembering that my MTF friend, who started transitioning at the time I met her, is a "she", whereas my other friend who came out as FTM after I'd known him for a bit, is pretty easy to remember.

So to answer my question, how do you react to when someone calls you by a different pronoun than you prefer? Do you acknowledge that sometimes someone can make a mistake, especially in the early days?

I dislike it when the company knows what I prefer and I call them out on it. But I have friends who don't know I prefer certain pronouns, so I can't really get offended at it. But yes people can make mistakes early on, if it continues then it really needs to be addressed.