Pronouns

[cathexis]

If more people would ask, there would be less errors. Eventually, they will learn to ask. Until then, there will be many awkward interactions.

[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by cathexis

If more people would ask, there would be less errors. Eventually, they will learn to ask. Until then, there will be many awkward interactions.

i do ask but i forget!

[cathexis]

Originally Posted by girl_dee

i do ask but i forget!

dee, I forget too. Sometimes it gets embarrassing, so I ask again blaming it on the ol' memory.

[ardentfemme]

Hey everyone, hope you don't mind my hopping on this thread with a question:

Does anyone know the origin of hy/hym pronouns?

The spelling doesn't have anything to do with "womyn," does it?

I've only seen these terms online, so I was also wondering if anyone uses them irl/how to pronounce them if so.

Thanks!

[clay]

Originally Posted by ardentfemme

Hey everyone, hope you don't mind my hopping on this thread with a question:

Does anyone know the origin of hy/hym pronouns?

The spelling doesn't have anything to do with "womyn," does it?

I've only seen these terms online, so I was also wondering if anyone uses them irl/how to pronounce them if so.

Thanks!

hey ardentfemme. Great question. I will chime in on what they mean to me....hy is pronounced same as "he" as is hys..same as hys...and hyr same as her. I use them spelled that way as I am a woman identified butch, masculine of center. I don't want typical male pronouns to refer to myself. I am female but identify MOC (masculine of center) which is in no way meaning "male" to me.'

For me, it is a female version/spelling of my own identity and pronouns. I also prefer boi meaning boy and pronounced exactly like boy. I have also seen her spelled "hir" I am uncertain as to origin of any of these.....so hope I at least c larified some of it for you...

Have a great weekend....clay

[JDeere]

Originally Posted by MissGentleman

Does it offend you when someone calls you by your former or an unwanted pronoun?

It doesn't really offend me if I get called "him", but it does seem a bit strange. I'm much more comfortable with "her" and other female pronouns. I still have a bit of trouble remembering that my MTF friend, who started transitioning at the time I met her, is a "she", whereas my other friend who came out as FTM after I'd known him for a bit, is pretty easy to remember.

So to answer my question, how do you react to when someone calls you by a different pronoun than you prefer? Do you acknowledge that sometimes someone can make a mistake, especially in the early days?

I dislike it when the company knows what I prefer and I call them out on it. But I have friends who don't know I prefer certain pronouns, so I can't really get offended at it. But yes people can make mistakes early on, if it continues then it really needs to be addressed.

[Martina]

Yes, people use Hy/hym/hys pronouns irl.

And, yes, I think the spelling probably is inspired by the y spelling of women.

Originally Posted by ardentfemme

Hey everyone, hope you don't mind my hopping on this thread with a question:

Does anyone know the origin of hy/hym pronouns?

The spelling doesn't have anything to do with "womyn," does it?

I've only seen these terms online, so I was also wondering if anyone uses them irl/how to pronounce them if so.

Thanks!

[JDeere]

Originally Posted by Martina

Yes, people use Hy/hym/hys pronouns irl.

And, yes, I think the spelling probably is inspired by the y spelling of women.

Yes they are used in real life but I have never heard of it being used or inspired by the y in women.