Flirting in a Non-GLBT Space - Page 2

Dude · 11-09-2013, 11:28 PM

I think the 2x4 analogy implies that butches are dense.
Who would want to be around someone who thought they
were being flirted with constantly?

Its not so much dense _ but being caught completely off
guard. I dont expect to get flirted with , like fucking evah.

When it actually does happen , it takes a minute or twenty to sink in.
This woman's smirk, was enough to screech one boot to a full stop.
Not a cool move ,at all , fortunately , she did not see It. :l

Rusted, you gotta go back and check her out on your terms.
Nice and slow. Act like you cant find anything. : ]

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Officially on sundays from 1-3!

imperfect_cupcake · 11-10-2013, 02:56 AM

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I think the 2x4 analogy implies that butches are dense.
Who would want to be around someone who thought they
were being flirted with constantly?

I think that some people may not actually understand the whole premise of flirting. If you
are open to the possibility that you are fabulous enough to be flirted with, then if you *think* someone *might* be flirting with you... you flirt back. to the same degree/level. this is now entering the flirt arena. the person who started, if they *are* flirting, will be encouraged and if they are flirting to pull you, rather than flirting for social fun, they will *UP the VOLUME* of it. You return in kind. they go further and at this point it's pretty damn obvious she's flirting. That's why flirting starts with a SMILE and not someone staring at "you" and sliding their tongue in and out from between their fingers and pinching their own nipple. right?

it's so they approach cautiously. Smile
smile back
wink
wink back

it's easy. just do back what they do. and eventually you'll figure out if they are flirting. But jeeze, yeah, I like people who know that they are worth flirting with and open to that happening. It's less crushing for me, as a vulnerable approaching person!

~baby~doll~ · 01-09-2014, 04:20 PM

Socially i can be like a bull in the china shop. i am not very tactful so i just bowl right in. if i am rejected at least i tried.

Bad_boi · 01-09-2014, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by ~baby~doll~

Socially i can be like a bull in the china shop. i am not very tactful so i just bowl right in. if i am rejected at least i tried.

This. All. Day.

Its better to get a no thank you than to not try. Not trying is already saying no to yourself!

ProfPacker · 02-09-2014, 02:29 PM

I was at a workshop this morning and I think one of the presenters was flirting with me. Been so long I have no idea. I was handling the physical space for the group. We did have a connection around the subject matter. She is also a social worker. Hmmm, she said, we will be in touch... do you have a card? She already had my work email on the sign in sheet. Of course I didn't, so she said we will be in touch. My gut said yes. Tried to find her on fb but she doesn't have one. Just took a leap and sent her an email from my personal email for her to have.

Does that sound right? She seems like someone I would like to have a drink with. Oy.

01-09-2014, 04:20 PM	#3
~baby~doll~ Member How Do You Identify?: femme-bottom, lesbian, queer Preferred Pronoun?: feminine ones Relationship Status: Leather polyamorous family Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: with HER Posts: 1,110 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,494 Thanked 2,857 Times in 905 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Socially i can be like a bull in the china shop. i am not very tactful so i just bowl right in. if i am rejected at least i tried. __________________ i will wait to love You. i will wait another day For You i'd leave all this behind. i will wait for you tonight. iwill waste another dream on You Always run to You. Uh Huh Her

11-09-2013, 11:28 PM	#1
Dude Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Perusing Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: exit 5 with an exit 21 goal Posts: 1,725 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,351 Thanked 10,605 Times in 1,477 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I think the 2x4 analogy implies that butches are dense. Who would want to be around someone who thought they were being flirted with constantly? Its not so much dense _ but being caught completely off guard. I dont expect to get flirted with , like fucking evah. When it actually does happen , it takes a minute or twenty to sink in. This woman's smirk, was enough to screech one boot to a full stop. Not a cool move ,at all , fortunately , she did not see It. :l Rusted, you gotta go back and check her out on your terms. Nice and slow. Act like you cant find anything. : ] Queer single hours for home depot and lowes are now Officially on sundays from 1-3!

02-09-2014, 02:29 PM	#5
ProfPacker Member How Do You Identify?: butch/MOC Preferred Pronoun?: Hy/hym/hys but in circumstances like work and some other places she Relationship Status: single Join Date: Sep 2013 Location: nj Posts: 1,365 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,023 Thanked 4,815 Times in 1,187 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I was at a workshop this morning and I think one of the presenters was flirting with me. Been so long I have no idea. I was handling the physical space for the group. We did have a connection around the subject matter. She is also a social worker. Hmmm, she said, we will be in touch... do you have a card? She already had my work email on the sign in sheet. Of course I didn't, so she said we will be in touch. My gut said yes. Tried to find her on fb but she doesn't have one. Just took a leap and sent her an email from my personal email for her to have. Does that sound right? She seems like someone I would like to have a drink with. Oy.